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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and i after a year and a half are considering whether or not we should stay together. We love each other but are very different in all aspects. Im caring, considerate, don't drink much and don't really like adventurous things - he is complete opposite - outgoing, enjoys drinking and can be selfish. An example is i felt really ill one night and wanted him to stay home with me but he wanted to go drinking. I said if situation reversed id stay in look after him but he said he'd like me to go out enjoy myself if he wasn't well - is that selfish??At the moment he is away on hols with a single friend. I said to him to keep in touch with me whilst away and he said of course. 3 days have passed and not even a text message. Do you think he is trying to tell me something? Should he not of been in touch?Is it wise to stay with someone just out of love who i know thinks and acts complete opposite to me? Can it work despite our differences?Thank you.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (3 October 2007):
 It could work. I don't know if it will in your case, but I don't want to discourage you from others who have different personalities. We date people because of their differences, not because they are like us. I really don't want to date myself, I like diversity.
The problem in your relationship is you're willing to sacrifice and he's not willing to meet you half way. He should have stayed with you that evening. Saying, if it was you, that's wrong. He's not you and can't judge your feelings as being his own. No text or calls, that's wrong too.
I would find someone who you can relate too, who may be different but is willing to compromise and meet you half way in the relationship.
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