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writes:I'm keeping my question short and sweet really. Is it weird that my boyfriend of a year and a half had pictures of him and his ex girlfriends on a hard drive that he bought after we started going out?Bearing in mind he's been broken up with one of those girlfriends for about 4 years. I'm not sure if I'm upset or not? Some of the pictures are him and them kissing. He says they're ok to have because he does not hate the people in them. Which I accept. Just can't really understand the logic and hope someone else can help me.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (3 May 2014):
 Most people just transfer their content in bulk from hard drive to hard drive. I wouldn't read too much into it.
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reader, Mark1978  +, writes (1 May 2014):
 I do a lot of photography: mainly trains, cars, wildlife and of course my family. On my Hard drives are approx 30k images taken over a ten year period which includes pics of my ex's. When I back up to a new hard drive. (one should ALWAYS back up any memories/important file as computer drives DO fail!), the pics of my ex are included. Maybe you could give us more to go on. Obviously if he has a hard drive with 100 pictures on it and 98 of them are his ex then I would be concerned. If he has 850 pictures of friends, family, days out, holidays, etc then I wouldn't worry at all as he is simply keeping his memories. Why do I keep pics of me and my ex? Seems a shame to delete them as A: I look quite good in some of them and B: my ex was part of my life for a year in 2012 and so, as a keen photographer, I choose to keep them in the way I have kept the book my school friends signed when I left school 20 years ago but have never seen any of them since.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 May 2014):
 For me, it's not a big deal. Many of the OLDER of us Aunties and Uncles here on DC will tell you that keep mementos of your past (which includes exes) is pretty normal. I have some pictures of my first love and my second BF, the third, no (he was a douche-canoe). I don't have them on my computer. They are all on paper in a box (in the basement) along with other keepsakes from my past.
However, time has changed since then. I have 75% of all the pictures of my kids on either my hard drive, ram stick, DVD and online storage. 20% I have on paper (and some of those have been scanned & stored online too) 5% I have lost. And it sucks. So I am REALLY good at uploading and saving pictures.
My problem with keeping exes would be if they OFTEN opened up that file/folder and "reminisced" over their "golden days". That I would find a tad iffy.
And IF any of them were SEXUAL in nature (not a kiss) they should be gone too. (if someone NEEDS to keep them, put them on a ram stick).
Whether you like it or not, THESE girls are part of his past. Those photos are PART of his past too.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 May 2014):
 nope it's just like having an old photo album of the ex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2014): I don't think it is weird. I have moved old photos onto new hardware/storage devices over the years. It is just a storage of them. I don't look at them, but I don't want to throw them out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2014): No it's not weird. A hard drive is just storage of digital content, they do have a shelf life and it's smart to have more than one copy of photos and stuff on different drives.
I have copies of photo's of my exes saved onto cloud services, Facebook, a hard drive and a couple of DVD discs.
But as I'm sure it the case your boyfriend they're just part of my entire collection only about 2% of which have exes in them.
I wouldn't worry about it, OP. it's not like he has a picture of him with his exes on his bedside locker.
They're just digital memories he has preserved and probably constitute a very small proportion of all the pictures he has.
What is the logic you don't understand here, OP? You surely have a collection of pictures from your past too? Do you not store them somewhere safe?
OP all it means is he transferred those pictures onto a new storage medium, it means nothing profound. It's not like he's just gotten her name tattooed onto balls or something.
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reader, RevMick +, writes (1 May 2014):
 Hi,I think if they are still friends, having pictures (depending on the content) are ok. You for instance wouldn't burn an entire photo album, because you had fallen out with one person in a few of the pictures.If he constantly looks at them, then there may be an underlying issue of missing that person on a relationship level.However if the pictures are of a sexual nature, then yes I would say it is completely inappropriate to keep them.
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