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writes: My girlfriend cheated on me 7 months ago and at the time I was only able to deal with it by pretending it hadn't happened. Now I feel I will never be able to move on in my mind without knowing who this guy is. Is it wierd that I want to meet him? I know the bar where he works and am thinking about going there and confronting him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): No, i wouldn't say it was weird but what will you accomplish? I doubt you want to have a friendly chat with him so i'm guessing you probably want to hurt him in some way.
Is it worth maybe getting a criminal record or being thrown in jail over some guy you don't know? I think you should be concentrating on your relationship and if it's salvageable not confronting the guy she did it with.
You need to understand the reason she did it in the first place.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (17 February 2011):
I agree with LazyGuy. Sheis the one who cheated. The guy can even not know she has a boyfriend. Anyway, it doesn't matter at all. Because she is the one who should have protected you and avoid hurting you. And she didn't.The better thing you can do about it is to move on and find someone who respects you.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (17 February 2011):
 No, it ain't weird but it ain't a healthy thing to do. He has no answers for you. The answer is within yourself and it is in how you wish to deal with this, NOT by trying to find some answers like a detective but in how this is going to affect you. She cheated, she had her reasons for this and you had a response to it. That is it. He isn't really involved in it. She cheated, he didn't. Confront her, confront yourself and confront your relationship. Going after him is just a way to avoid doing this. You probably want to find some guy who just forced it all and so you can forgive her for fucking another guy.
This won't be the case.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): It sounds like you haven't confronted your girlfriend yet.Why not confront her first? She is the one who owes you honesty, not this guy. You are upset and you want some sort of closure to the episode, but you won't get it from him. Confronting him will make it worse.You might not even get closure from her. If honesty is what you ultimately want, then you should probably dump her and move on. If she cheats once, she can do it again.
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reader, Abass Abassi  +, writes (17 February 2011):
NO need to confront him. break up with her. She cheated on u, whom claims loves u alot. that boy is not reproachful. the cheater is here with u, dump her and never ever look at her back, even though she will implore for reunion. once a cheater is always a cheater.best of luck
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (17 February 2011):
You need to ask yourself this: What do you plan on achieving by confronting him?
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