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writes:Hey everyone,Lately I'v been thinking about how I am,and conclusion I'm a little wierd..cuz I get too attached to people it being first,I may know you for a day and I expect that it would last for a long time and I'm referring to friendship,when I meet someone new I feel like ok may be we can be friends in the future I don't know why I always think soo much..is anyone here like that? Reply to this Question
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (19 January 2013):
It’s actually very common. It can be a hard thing for people to live with because actually most people have a friendship hierarchy, of a few very close friends and a wider pool of friends/acquaintances and once they have that they mightn’t be actively seeking new friends. What you’re doing, of course, is getting attached to some-one, psychologically preparing for friendship and then having those expectations disappointed. So it’s really important if you’re like that, to treasure the friendships you have and to make sure you work at them.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Agneta  +, writes (18 January 2013):
 Yes, I am very much like that. If I meet somebody i like I get very attached very fast. Sometimes even to people that in the long run shows not to be so good for me. It is very hurtful and takes a lot of energy.
Did you ever read about attachment theory? It might help you understand what is going on with you, and help you find better ways to interact.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_theory
It is not bad to be able to attach to people, the opposite is much worse, but for your own well being it is good to learn more about yourself and why you do this. If you can afford seeing a therapist you can get good help with this too. It doesn't have to take many sessions to get started on a new track.
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