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writes:Is it true that nice guys finish last? i am one of the nicest people, and pride myself on the fact that no one really hates me. I cant be mean, i just dont have it in me. i will stand up for myself, but i will not bully anyone. If anyone drops there papers in the hall, i will stop and help pick it up. I always hold the door open for every girl i am with. and much more. Does this turn girls away from me? i am always being called sweet and nice, but when i ask them out, they always say no. They say they do not feel the same way. so is it true nice guys finish last? Reply to this Question
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reader, Uncle Trev  +, writes (17 September 2007):
Try looking at at another way.
You seem to be a great guy who is considerate and to be quite frank I would have thought you to be any girls dream fellow.
If they refuse to go out with you then they do not qualify to be your girlfriend. It is as simple as that.
In a relationship these people would most likely use and abuse you anyway hurting you much more in the long run. There are girls out there who would love a guy like you it is just that you haven't managed to find and ask those girls out yet.
Hold in there and maybe lighten up if you are taking this situation too seriously - it may be that you might be coming over like that witch may be a titch off putting.
Hope this has helped a bit.
Trev
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2007): im 28 and yea, i often feel the same way you do. for me its a cycle i would like to break. it goes like this:
i put my all into it and im too nice. but im happy. the relationship doesnt work. i end up being an asshole in my next relationship. im not happy. the relationship doesnt work. i stay single for a while. i eventually find another girl to try my love again (as the real me...nice guy). get burnt.....etc etc.
i dunno if we are doomed but its all ups and downs in my life.
good luck my friend
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2007): You know what? It all depends in this type of women you are asking out. I see many amazingly big-hearted men only strive for the barbi-doll type bimbos whom are very superficial. I am a girl who has always loved nice guys (to date, not just be friends with) because I am smart enough to know that these guys will trat me right. The main tips I can give you are
1.) Expand you search for the perfect mate beyond just "one type"
2.) Do not try too hard or be too forceful.
I know you will find someone amazing. Whatever you do, do not stop having a big heart and doing the sweet things you do!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2007): in my opinion nice guys always finish first. I love nice guys but if they're too goody two shoes that can be a turn off. Maybe there are other factors turning girls away from you? You do seem really polite and gentleman like and i can't see how that could turn anyone away from you. Even if there are other factors that is preventing you from finding a girl straight away however, i'd say who cares. I know it's cliche but be yourself and eventually you'll find a girl who will love you for who you are. You'll be better off then anyway.
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reader, kt +, writes (16 September 2007):
 no way!! i adore nice guys!! there are two types of guys bad boys and good guys. i personally prefer nice guys but i know that some girls like bad boys. dont be put off that there isnt a girl showing interest, there will be a girl that comes along one day and you will knock her off her feet.also there are many other factors that girls look at when deciding whether to say yes or no to a guy. my advise is to just be patient and wait for a girl who really recognises your nice qualitys. dont change who you are!hope this helps x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007): Not all all. I LOVE nice guys, maybe it's simly because they don't fancy you. Maybe your aiming too high?
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