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writes: Is it true that emotional attachments tend to destroy the creativity of a human being? I am not sure but have felt like this a few times, for in emotional attachment, there are so many do's and do not's that one may feel trapped altogether to have any space for creative thoughts to occur.
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reader, Echoes  +, writes (11 March 2007):
If you feel like that you're dating the wrong person. Good, healthy and mutual attachments can be the hub of creativity don't let a few lesser experiences put you off. People are wonderful and your soul mate (or Anam Cara) is waiting for you so keep going.
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reader, shania +, writes (10 March 2007):
 I agree with the other agony aunts on here but it sounds to me like you would rather be on your own because it sounds like you resent the fact that being in a relationship and getting emotionally involved makes you feel trapped and therefore no room for creative thoughts,although i dont know why it shouldn't.It might be because you haven't met the right person,otherwise being in love and having feelings for someone is wonderful and puts a spring in your step.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2007): When I am in a relationship,in love and all is going well I am very creative,have boundless energy and an excitement for life. However when things aren't working out in a relationship then it makes me feel depressed and very uninterested in everything else. So I am striving to find a partner who for at least 80% of the time will make me feel happy, creative and alive. Hopefully it will be a mutual experience where we can both feel the world is better because we are together.
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reader, JulietteElise  +, writes (10 March 2007):
 I'm not quite sure if your're talking about a dateing type relationship or a "in love with a friend" type of relationship, the latter of which i would certinitly belive ones limitations to be far greater due to the predicament. However, in the more ideal relationship the emotional attachment would actualy make one more creatively minded, for they will inspire the persons thoughts, etc. However, not everyone understands the artist (weither fine art, music, writeing/poetry) and will demand more time out of the person.... for they might feel that the time this person is spending creating is taking away from personal time together. This is a very unfortunate thing, not to mention a bit immature. I can honestly tell you that you CAN find someone to date who will respect your needed time to create, and in fact do everything in their power to help it flurish. I know this because this is the case with me and my bf of about 2 years now. We are both artists, him a painter and musican, me an illustrator and craftster. I think it helps that we are both artists/creative people since we can understand the hours needed to do work, the staying late into the night to finish projects, the feeling of "being in the zone" so to speack and thus forgeting all else. He says i am his biggest insperation (which i truley do love for he always wants to draw me weithen his art), and i do my best to give him creative ideas for work and helping with lyrics for songs and so forth. I love that he respects my opinions, and actually thinks many of them are good. He also helps me with my work, and even though some of my craft like projects can be eccentric, he just laughs and lets me do what i will. Thus, if both people are creative i think its much easier for creativity to blossum, evolve, and be still able to be largly persued, so don't give up! You just need to find like minded people, which my seem hard, but if you join some groups on what you do (weither it be music, art, writting, etc) weither its in a forume online or a real group in life, or even join soem classes, you will be sure to meet more like-minded souls. I find the artistic community as a whole to be very openminded and more laid back (though theature people, unfortunitly, are more "drama" prone i've found).... and though some artists are a bit nuts, enough of us are sane (enough) for a good relationship. However, if you make your needs known in the very beggining of dateing someone who isnt an artist, explaining how though you need to spend lots of time with your passion and it dousnt mean you love them any less, they may be more able to understand. After all, i am sure it is your creativity that attrated them to you in the first place, right? so they should (though i know this isnt always the case) be willing to give you the time and space you need for creativity. I once heard a quote though that might be intresting for you to keep in mind, that "great art was never made in the ideal conditions." if, however, you are refering to the fact that in a relationship you yourself become so engrossed with it that you seem to lose your creative streak, then you will have to make sure you give yourself time apeart to focus on your work. And if a relationship seems to sap all joy out of you, and makes you feel dead, grey, and like u're the one drudgeing along... then obviously this is NOT a good relationship. In a real relationship... one full of love, creativity flourishes.... how else would there be so many poets? and so many love songs?best of luck my friend
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reader, ols523 +, writes (10 March 2007):
I always seem to find myself (creatively) after a breakup or out of a relationship. However, I haven't yet found the right relationship in which I can have an emotional attachment and be able to discover myself - - being able to do both is what I strive for in a relationship, and I think it's the mark of a true connection. Perhaps that's what's going on with you as well?
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