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writes:How soon is to soon to move in with someone?My bf and I have been dating for six months , I've known him for almost a year. My lease is up at the end of January and he asked me to move in with him instead of getting a new place.He said it was pointless for me to be paying rent when I spend almost every night at his place any ways . Reply to this Question
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reader, JuliaS +, writes (13 December 2015):
JuliaS is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe is living in a house his family owns so there won't be an issue with having me move in.
I'm not sure about how we can get everything settled. He doesn't want me to pay rent or utilities but I don't except him to pay for it all.
I was renting a room so as far as furniture or decor I don't have much so I'm sure he wouldn't mind me bringing what I have
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reader, Been there Now over it  +, writes (12 December 2015):
Six months is fine for many people. Honeypie is absolutely correct: Think about all the things that can go wrong, discuss them, and come to an agreement with each other regarding how each item will be handled. Problems that could come up: One of you is not as clean or neat as the other. Differing opinions about how household costs should be split. Friends or relatives coming over that one of you might not like. How closets and storage are split. Whose furniture and artwork will be used and what will be tossed. Think of everything!Also, if he is renting his residence, read the rental contract in regard to additional residents. There may be a prohibition on additional residents and you may need to speak with the property manager before moving in.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (12 December 2015):
 Sit down and make a budget with him, set up house rules, split the chores etc FIRST.
For some this is too soon, for others it works just fine. If you have spend the majority of the last 6 months at his place anyways, I'd give it a go. IF you are ready for it.
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