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writes: There's this guy who's my ex but we're good friends (maybe more?) and he keeps talking about coming to meet me afterschool. He texted me the other day saying that he was going to meet me but he'd be 10 minutes late. Unfortunately, i didn't get this message until i got home because my phone's misbehaving, and he was stood waiting in the pouring rain for me for ages. Anyway, he rang me that night and i apologized and everything was fine. Then yesterday he sent me a similar message, saying he was going to meet me but he'll be late, and please wait. I got this message in time, but i waited 40 minutes and he didn't turn up so i went home. We haven't spoken since. I expected him to ring me or something for an explanation but i haven't got one. I'm tempted to ring him, but my pride is getting in the way, and it sort of feels too late now anyway. My main worry is that we missed each other somehow, and he thinks i stood him up again, but when someone says 'late' i don't expect them to mean '40 minutes late'. What's freaking me out is that he may have deliberately stood me up to get back at me for the day before. Also, it wasn't his usual number that the text was from, it may have been his work phone or a friend's phone but there's a possibility that it was someone else just trying to piss me off or come between me and him by causing conflict. i know i should probably talk to him, but i don't want to look like a fool, and i don't want to make him feel bad or let him make me feel guilty either, even though i did wait for 40 minutes.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (20 May 2006):
 Have you considered interacting with your guy without the use of a mobile phone? It IS possible!
Your phone is a tool; I hope it's not the limit of your ability to communicate with others, because it can lead to exactly the problems you're describing. You *think* this, and you *suppose* that, and you *worry* about what something *might* mean. You don't appear to appreciate that your phone is the CAUSE of your problems. So ditch the phone, already!
TALK to him. Don't text him. Don't ring him. You know where he can be found, right? Well, walk up to him and use your mouth to form speaking words that won't be delayed or lost by technology. Say something along the lines of "Sorry we haven't had much luck meeting up. Can we try starting over?"
Smile. Look him in the eye. That way there can be no mistaking your message or sincerity.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2006): I think you are just going to have to ask him. You dont need to accuse him of anything but it would be a shame if a lack of communication led to the end of something, which could have a simple explanation. If he did do it on purpose, im sure you'd like to know this. If you never speak to him about it and leave it, you will always be wondering...
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