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writes:I have been getting along with a woman on a friendly basis that is an acquaintence who seems to have some attraction towards me (as I do towards her) but it turns out she thought that i was married. I am not sure why she thought that as I have never mentioned my marital status to her. While at drinks she mentioned 'My wife' and i told her i was single. We have known each other for several months and I have always kept things friendly without asking her out or making any obvious signs of being interested. I've assumed that she is already taken, although i have no proof on who the lucky man is. She is very attractive and could probably have the pick of any man she wanted.I am unsure whether it is now too late to indicate that I am interested in her as more than a friend... I guess 2 questions, 1) Should i be asking her out and leaving it up to her to tell me if she is in a relationship and..2) If you were her, would you be assuming that i only like you as a friend, due to lack of any previous romantic interest shown?Many thanks for any advice you may have. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, Many thanks for your answers- I actually think that she is just a very friendly girl and I've seen her treating many other guys (mainly in social situations after a few drinks) the same way as she treats me. I am a lot older than her so can understand on further thought why she assumed I was married. So i don't plan on doing anything for now and will see what happens next year.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (28 December 2011):
 My experience is that women size you up long before you even think they have sized you up. I have the hunch that her asking was more than just mere wanting to know.
I would suggest you keep on being friendly and increase the friendliness just a nothing-e-meter. I think she will reveal her game soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2011): I think she mentioned "your wife" as nothing more than a way of checking if you had one or not. Either that, or she assumed you were in fact married, in the same way you're assuming she's already taken! Making assumptions never got anyone anywhere though. You could just be brave and ask her straight out if she's in a relationship, or use the same method she did and drop "your boyfriend/husband" into conversation. I don't think it's too late to make your romantic interest known if she's single and, as you said, appears to be attracted to you too.
It doesn't sound to me like you have anything to lose by trying to find out her relationship status. You don't know if/when she's going to volunteer that information; at least if you're proactive you can decide what to do next (either pursue her further or let her go). I'd go for it! Good luck and take care :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2011): Ask her out to dinner. Take it from there. Being asked out to dinner generally indicates 'interest'. Just see where it goes.
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