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writes:this is my problem... i was with my bf for 3 years when he finished the relationship because he wasnt sure he wanted a relationship anymore. he said that it wasnt that his feelings for me had changed, he still loved me and there was no one else, he said that he saw us spending the rest of our lives together and it scared him, hes 24 and im 22. 3 months later and true to his word there was no one else and there hasnt been anyone else.. he has told me now that he misses me, loves me and wants to see whether it will work out if we give it another go. so we are spending time together and seeing how we feel. the thing is he is being a bit guarded, he hasnt tried to kiss me or anything and when i questioned him he said that hes just worried about hurting me again and doesnt want to rush into things.. he wants us to both be sure its what we want and that hes worried it wont be the same. however when we had split up i met a guy whos 29. we stared dating and got on well. im not sure what to do because since ive started seeing my ex again i havent seen the other guy but we still talk alot and i still like him. i feel like should i try with my ex if we ve both got doubts? should i see the other guy? when i was with me ex i loved him and we had a great relationship and i do still love him but im concerned that its just too late?
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reader, TomWilkinson +, writes (21 November 2007):
 If it's true love it's never too late. It's good that he doesn't want to rush things for fear of hurting you. What could work is going on a date with him, and saying it's the first date.
If you start seeing each other again, treat it as a totally new relationship, as seeing it as "getting back together" can sometimes give the impression that it's jumping straight into seriousness. Try and have a good time together and start completely anew, that way you will both be able to see where things are heading
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