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writes:Well i'm 50, In fact today i'm 50. Not a life threatening event but still an event. You see i have cared for my parents and sister for the last 25 years. I lost my sister 2 years ago and both my parents last year. They were my life, i gave up on everything 25 years ago just to help them.Now they are not here. I turned my fiancée away from me 25 years ago because of my parents. She now has a family with 3 children. I keep thinking of being married and having a family but i'm 50. I think i am too late Reply to this Question
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (5 February 2016):
Like the others have said, it's not too late to have a family, BUT I would say no to having biological children of your own. The truth is that fathering a child at that age is tough, plus your child might lose you when they're still quite young.
So instead, go for single mothers. They already have a child and if you bond well with them you have a chance to be extra support for a child who may or may not see their father that often.
My sister's fiancee left her after they had two children. She struggled as a single mom for years until she met her current boyfriend, who takes a load off her back and is a great influence on the kids. She once told me she never thought she'd find love again, but she did.
So, no it's definitely not to late to find love and have a family. Just remember that found family is just as important as a bond shared in blood.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2016): The other poster was spot on!
I am or was a single Mum when I met my partner, he is a lot older than I am, in his late 40s and I am 27, in my eyes he offers me a mature, stable relationship, he has a lot more life experience so wasn't afraid of falling in love with a single mum and being a good step dad to my Child. I'd love to give him one of his own at some point. 3 years on he has been amazing.
Now I'm not saying run out and find a younger women, even one your own age would be insane not to want a man with your qualities.
Don't give up hope, because I'm sure my partner thought this before he met me, as I did before him.
You sound like a wonderful man and the way you cared for your parents, I'm postive a women we see you as an excellent father.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2016): Don't be discouraged my friend, You seem to be a selfless, wonderful guy. There are so many single moms around who are having a terrible time trying to raise a child and earn a living at the same time. You shouldn't have difficulty in meeting some. My advice is find a single mom who is 40-45 yrs old,with 1 or 2 young children, you will be doing a great deed, and at the same time, you never know, You may still have time to have 1 or 2 babies more together.In the olden days they used to say life begins at 40, but now a days the same saying goes, life begins at 60.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (4 February 2016):
 Hey dad :)
As long as you still have the know how.. you can still have kids. My father had another son at 50.. you know what that makes me look like? lol.. Find a younger brod who digs older men. Women need security and support and older men have a better chance at providing that. Good luck!
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reader, mishi 1 +, writes (4 February 2016):
 Hi there , you are great men . who care for others then himself. no it's not late. I am 36 years old and I am dating guys who are 47 plus. I like mature guys. I have two other friends who are 14 years younger from their
husbands.so , no it's not too late to have children try to find the right person. who is looking for someone mature and ready to settle down.
if you don't have luck with that then there is lot of single moms who wants to complete their family. so, no it's not late.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (4 February 2016):
 Marriage no, of course not. You sound like a nice man and deserve to find happiness. But does that happiness have to equate to having a biological child/ren? The reason I ask is there are some pretty awesome "ready made" families just waiting for that special someone to make it that bit more complete. Family is what you make of things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2016): You are a man with a good heart. It's never too late to find love. Starting a family at 50 seems to be no big deal in the 21st century. However; the activities of youngsters as they get older, from toddler to teens; may be a bit much for you as you advance in age yourself.
Must people plan-out life; but there are challenges and circumstances that change our plans and priorities. I was with my domestic partner for 28 years. I'm in your age-group. After some sporadic dating, making friends,self-improvement,losses of some of my own family members, and finally being dumped by someone almost 3 years ago. I found a wonderful boyfriend 8 years after my life-partner passed-on. I never gave-up on keeping love and romance in my life, and my age has never had anything to do with that.
You're feeling the cynicism that comes with looking back on life in retrospect. When people reach a milestone, they always look back at their accomplishments and contributions; and start to wonder if they actually accomplished anything worthy of a legacy. Well, sometimes we do, and sometimes we don't. I say, better late than never. Happiness is a blessing from God. There is no age-limit set on it. You go for the gusto until you take your last breath, my good friend.
From what I gather from your post, you are really asking would it be sensible to marry and start a family at this point in your life? Why not? If that is what you want, and you are able to find someone willing to share that with you. Finding a woman child-bearing age, or someone willing to adopt will fulfill all your desires and makeup for all the lost time.
My opinion is, you are a selfless and loyal soul who
shouldn't deny yourself anything you want. You gave up a lot for those you love most; so you deserve a lot. That comes from wisdom. I'm not speaking out of my hat, sir.
Travel, explore romance, date, and live life to the fullest my dear fellow. God bless you immensely!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 February 2016):
 I won't tell you that it is impossible, but at your age it will be quite a challenge to meet someone, fall in love, and be a father to children before you are pension age.
You sound like a caring soul, someone who sacrificed your life for your family. I feel sad that you are now left alone. I would recommend picking up hobbies or even trying online dating to see if you can meet anyone. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2016): Well happy birthday and all the best for a year ahead. Kudos to you on looking after your sister and your parents for many years and terribly sorry for your loss. You are an amazing person to put your parents first. Now you should look after yourself.It's never too late for marriage. You can marry at any age, most important you find the right partner.Go out and meet people. Enjoy dating and have fun. Good luck and all the best wishes. Keep us posted!!
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