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writes: Hi, I'm in a big dilemma here, my boyfriend is 30 years older,and we are very good couple, but I'm pregnant, and I don't know, if it is too hard for raise a child with an older man, and I'm not sure he wants it, maybe he would just do it , because of keeping me.Well he has grandchildren, and her daughter is much older than me. He divorced twice, but we are in love.What are the risks of having this child, or living with such a big age difference?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): i think you should have discussed having babies with him first. i think this would have been the adult responsible thing. but what is done is done. so you both have some choices to make. he is be a father to the baby but please do not expect miracles. older men love younger women but the moment you start talking babies they get a fright of their lives. they go along with it but some resent their younger women for pressurising them into fatherhood at this late stage. they also feel embarressed that they are new fathers as well as grandfathers. but this is something that they have to put up with to please the younger woman in their lives.
please think of the financial implications as well. take into account that maybe you will be forced to raise this kid by yourself if something happens to him ( death is a certainty it can happen at any time). tell your bf your fears, your hopes and your expectations from him. start communicating with your bf. i hope you did not delibertely unintentionally fall pregnant. this would be sad.
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