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writes:I am in love with my boyfriend, i want our relationship to move forward but feel like we're stuck moving nowhere. I really don't know what to do at the moment, we both work full time mon-fri, but have completely different hours, basically when i leave at 7.30am i then don't see him until mignight. Its hard cause that means we barely see each other through the week, i feel like we are only a weekend couple. We live together and as i said i absolutely love the pants off him. We get on perfectly, and try to make the most of the time we get together. We have our problems, but that's only due to money mainly, as we are both on a low wage, which makes it hard for us to save anything.Anyway that was just an insight into our relationship, but my main problem is....I really want to marry this guy. We have spoken about getting married and having kids but i'm afraid it may only be talk from him. We have only been together 2 years, living together for 1 year, but its been the best 2 years of my life even with the ups and downs. We are good together. Is it too early to consider getting married? Do i pop the question or wait for him to ask himself? What if i ask and he's not ready? What if he's never ready to ask the question?? Ahh! All answers much appreciated!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answers, but you got the whole situation wrong.
I don't think marriage will change things.
The money for the wedding hasn't got anything to do with this, that is sorted anyway.
There is no fear or insecurities. We trust each other 100% and the rest.
Thanks all the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2011): It would be surprising for a guy his age to seriously consider marriage at this stage in his life. I can understand you wanting more time with him but thinking marriage will change things is a HUGE mistake.
Men don't get married until they feel like they can financially provide for a house and family, grow tired of the single life, and see most of their single friends tying the knot. Your guy has many years to go..almost a decade.
Anytime someone your age is pushing for that next step, it's usually due to fear and insecurites..not the right reasons to get married and why the large majority of divorces in your age group. Please don't propose. A proposal is something that should come from him and that he's excited about.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (8 August 2011):
 You are still very very young.
I know you feel like you love him with all your heart, at your age feelings, wants and needs can change between 21 and 28. You might marry him now and regret it in 6 years time. You would still only be 27 then.
My advice would be to wait. Enjoy the time you have together. Getting married will not give you more time together, and it will not make your relationship perfect.
In fact, getting married will probably split you two even more, with the pressure of money, weddings are NOT cheap.
You are still young, and have PLENTY of time in the future to get married. If you love each other that much, what is the rush? He will still be around in 5,6, 7 yrs time.
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