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writes:Right, I like this girl but shes a bit fat. She's got a great personality and we get on great and she's a good laugh. I'm afraid to ask her out in case I will soon stop liking her because she's big and I don't want to hurt her feelings. I kinda find her attractive and I'm not afraid what my friends will think as they don't control my life. My question is: Is it possible to lose interest in a relationship because the girl is fat? It's unexplored territory for me and I don't want to hurt her feelings. Thanks for any responses!! Reply to this Question
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (22 November 2010):
 Sometimes weight is a factor and its good that you are thinking of her in this matter. Its better to admit that you may not be attracted to a bigger girl then pretending you are like alot of people who try to cover up their thoughts.
Give it alot of thought and see if you can find yourself sexually attracted to her. If you can even if your not 100% sure I would go for. Personality is very important to the relationship and has to be there but everyone has their preferences of how they want their future partner to look. No one should be ashamed about who they are attracted to even if the type of person is very specific in either end of the spectrum.
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reader, helios  +, writes (22 November 2010):
 my best answer is yes, it is possible to lose interest in someone because they are fat. but if you really like her then i say go for it.
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reader, FloridaCatGirl +, writes (22 November 2010):
 If you don't ask her out, you will never know... so go for it! Maybe you can get her interested in some type of physical activity that you can do together. Or set up daily walks where you can enjoy one another's company while getting fit. You may be the incentive she needs to lose weight.
Definitely, ask her out... and let us know how things go! Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2010): If you find her attractive in certain ways and that personality that you love stays of the same appreciation, i do not believe you will ever lose your care for her due to her weight. Honestly when you start to like someone they appear far prettier to you then when you knew nothing about them. So with this at hand, unless you start to not like her attitude and personality anymore, she'll always be pretty to you. But if somewhere down the line you really started seeing her as an ugly person on the inside, the outside will follow.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2010): do not let her weight get you from being happy with that women because if you really care about her and her only 'defect' is her weight then encourage her to loose some weight, go and workout with her and have healthy meals together. there are far worse things in life than just some extra weight. if she had terrible personality problems or criminal issues then that's one thing. but a few extra pounds? oh please
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