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writes:Hey DC, Forge here, with an issue with my current girlfriend.I've had a really bumpy and rough relationship with her. Let's just call her "Jane."Well, in the beginning, when I had just met Jane, I fell for her in nothing flat, and she admitted to feeling the same way.Now we're together, and we've been together for around a month, give or take a few weeks.Before we were dating, she was very affectionate to me, because (I think) she felt sorry for me with my depression. She'd kiss me and hug me, despite not dating me.Now that we're together, she's definitely backed off from being as affectionate with me. She'd been spending time with other guys much more than me, and I didn't like that we weren't "exclusive."So, I tried to break up with her, but she told me she felt bad for being so mean, and I gave her another chance. (You can call me dumb now, because that's how I feel)She didn't stick to being close with me for much longer than a few days, so again, I tried to break up with her. Same deal, kind of. She said that she was depressed and freaking out because she might move, and how her friend is the only person who knew all about her.So I told her that (and I quote) "that's one of the reasons I'm dating you, is to support you and be there for you."So again, I didn't break up with her, because I really like her, but I don't feel like she's committed. She hates holding hands with me, but does it with her boy-friends. She doesn't like me putting my arm around her for much longer than a few minutes, but again, she lets her friends do it.I'm at a loss. She says she loves me, and I THINK (though not so sure anymore) I love her too, I've said it before. I'm just so confused.Is it worth it, or should I end it?-Førg€
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 December 2014):
 My guess is when one of her male friends hold her hand or put their arm around her, she thinks it's non-sexual and that they don't have any expectations, where as.. with a BF he might have expectations of "more". And I think she likes the attention she gets from her male friends.
I think if your case she is just really immature and have no idea what a relationship entails. And maybe (no offense) neither do you. She want a BF ( or rather the IDEA of a BF) but not having to CHANGE anything to HAVE a BF in her life.
On this case, I think maybe you two are better off JUST sticking to being friends?
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