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writes: i cheated on my boyfriend.. w my ex................. i dnt want to be back with him but i have been dating my current bf for 5 months. He was a vifgin and has not been able to satisfy me sexually. He tries and has gotten somewhat better ... he cant stay hard or last that long... but he is a gr8 f everything else is amazing i mean everything. we r very open abt it and i try to help him and guid him in anyway i can. he has tried vigra from his doctor and it worked pretty well the thing is he hasent gotten more and the sex hasent gotten nebetter sence ... he sayes he will get more but neway i cheated i needed to have good sex .. him and i had a bad argument one night bc my ex had called and he just was being a jerk.. we kinda broke up but i wldnt say it was offical we were back on track the very next morning... however that night i made it to my ex house for a "wild night" the sex was gr8 but i have no desire to be back with him and have not done it sence.... i guess is was this so bad after all?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): It is bad enough that you cheated, but to cheat with an ex, well, that is just horrible. How would you feel if the boot was on the other foot and you were the virgin and he went back to his ex cos the sex was better, gutted! Stop all of this crap right now and have some respect for your bf and yourself. You are acting like a little slag. He is doing his best and you even say he is getting better, so stick with him and help and guide him. Sex is everything in a relationship either and you have a lovely bloke there. Put this cheating behind you and move on. BUT if you are so desperate for a good shag then pack this lovely lad in and get someone else, but i think you will be mad to lose this one.
take care
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reader, a_decent_1  +, writes (27 May 2008):
 Hey,
SEX is just a Part of life.. !! You must take it as it comes.. !! "Cheating" for any reason is "Not allowed" .. I wouldn't be too Harsh with you but at this age you must know what you are doing.. !!
Come on, I can very well understand a 15 year old talking like this.. But, at 22 we are Mature enough to understand that SEX is something more than just a Wild Night out.. !! It's way of showing love and respect to your partner.. !!
The Fact that you slept with your EX makes the situation even worse.. !!
The "Very Simple" way of finding out what you did was Right or Wrong is : -
Imagine your Boy Friend sleeps with his EX and tells you he did so coz you aren't "satisfying" him.. Then..?
We need to undertstand that SEX at this age is LOVE for our partner..!! We cannot have sex just for the sake of it.. I expect you to hold your dignity and be with your BF "only" .. You are a Good girl, that is why this is bothering you.. Please make sure you are Trustful to your BF or please leave him.. !!
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reader, Cherriepie  +, writes (27 May 2008):
 Hunny, Im not going to look down on you because I can see you are trying to help your boyfriend and are being very patient with him. I lot of people will say you should leave him if he's not satisfying you like you need. Maybe you should...but you can also give him more time and he might come around. You might be trying to preasure him too much, you think? If you have such a great relationship with him, be patient like you are already doing.
As for your needs in the meantime? Yes you did give in to your ex, and I'm sure it was great. Guilty as charged here too. I have had sex with exes even when I am with a steady boyfriend (baby, if your reading this I havent cheated on you!) I understand how that happens...I have an ex who is so good I have hooked with him a lot even after we broke up.
baby, if you keep this up be careful and use protection, and try not to get emotionally involved with your ex. Just use him like you need to. Since you already have a history with him, I dont consider it as much cheating as other situations, but still... You really should try to stay with your boyfriend if you love him so much.
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reader, Smiffy  +, writes (27 May 2008):
 Doesnt it drive you insane when people continue to use "text" spelling.....
This generation will be unable to spell.....very very sad
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reader, pashanoodle  +, writes (27 May 2008):
 MMMMmmm - I'm gonna say yes, it was bad and it something you need to face and think about. There is no excuse for betraying the trust that comes explicitly with being in a long term "relationship" - you have done the wrong thing by your current BF.
Having said that, it sounds like you have some insight into why you strayed - the sex issue - it's a hard situation (no pun intended!!). You seem to be being very loving and supportive of your BF around this issue and that's great...but if you think you're not going to be able to do this long term/until your man gains confidence & technique...then maybe you shouldn't be staying with him. You'll need to be careful here - your BF's sexual self esteem is probably already pretty fragile, so you wouldn't want him to think it is all because of him/sex...if you do stay and you continue to feel unsatisfied sexually this will surely affect other aspects of the r'ship...so you're in a bit of a no win sitution.
I think the fact you cheated says something isn't right for you - and you need to address that ...either commit to building a good sexual r'ship with your BF OR end things with him and find someone who can meet all your needs. No more cheating...that'll just cause you more troubles!
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reader, edsbabygirl +, writes (27 May 2008):
 No matter who you cheated with, you still cheated. Cheating is never cool. This just seems like you couldn't control yourself. No matter what the reason, cheating is wrong.
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