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writes: Does anyone else hate this? Yesterday I was tired since I went hiking. So, my boyfriend was talking to me on the phone and asked if I was in a bad mood. I was only tired, but it put me in a bad mood when he asked if i was in a bad mood. Why do people ask that question?? To me it's rude. Am i wrong? It's like he was talking to me like i was five years old. He does this a lot, and usually asks if it's a "good (my name) day or a bad (my name) day." It drives me nuts! Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 April 2011):
 I agree, it is rude, and it puts the person asked in a bad mood for sure! Last time I got asked if I was grumpy when I wasn't, and it really got to me. I got quite annoyed!
Yes it is rude, yes it is annoying, and yes it is not respectful to talk to an adult like a 5 year old.
Perhaps he was the one who was in a bad mood that day.
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reader, BettyBoup  +, writes (3 April 2011):
 I completely know where you are coming from on this one. My bf says similar things. If I appear down to him, or not in a particularly extrovert mood, he asks if I'm in a bad mood, or says something like "poor baby isn't in a very good mood today". Also when I've broken down and cried in front of him whilst talking about something very personal that I was trying to make sense of while talking to him, he said "please don't cry, it makes me sad". He wasn't listening to what I was saying that was so difficult for me, he just didn't want to witness me crying because he couldn't handle it. It really bugs me about men. I think maybe it is possibly to do with the way men are brought up to be "tough" and not show negative emotion, apart from anger. Often if I am feeling sad and hopeless about something he gets angry because I cannot stop myself from being upset about it. Sometimes I'm just sad and down, and I just need to talk about it. But he doesn't seem to be able to handle it sometimes. It's weird and it does my head in. If I'm in a bad mood, it has to be pointed out and patronised "poor baby". It is annoying, I'd never thought of it as rude before, but I guess it is rude. It's patronising and belittling. I guess it is because men are taught not to show or discuss emotions, like women are(this is generally and my experience), so maybe men are afraid of having to deal with raw emotions, so by questioning what kind of "mood" you are in, it protects him from any emotions you may reveal as he can just blame them on a "bad day". Maybe that why they love the "she's on her period so I won't talk to her like she's a rational human being" reasoning.
Just a thought :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): I ask people that to put them in a bad mood haha. Only as a joke. But it's great, the easiest way to annoy someone is to tell them that they're annoyed. At first they say they're not but then after you say they are four or five times they actually get really annoyed that you keep saying it.
Were you in a bad mood that time?
You were, weren't you?
You're in a bad mood now too, I can tell.
Admit it you're in a bad mood now.
There's nothing you can say to convince me that you're not in a bad mood.
It's so obvious that you are.
Hey everyone OP is in a bad mood!
See? Works every time.
I think that answers your question too OP, you're not alone. Being asked if you're in a bad mood is one of the most annoying things ever, the only thing worse is someone telling you that you are and refusing to shut up when you say you're not.
It's funny though because when someone is in a bad mood there's nothing else you can really say to them except "are you in a bad mood?"
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