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anonymous
writes:HiI hope you can help with my problem. Three years ago I told this guy I had feelings for him and he was in a relationship. He told me he's always liked me. Anyway we left things on bad terms and I got hurt. He got in touch with me two years ago but I ignored him. I found it hard to move on. He's recently got back in touch and sent me a message to join a social networking site. He said I think you'll like this. It's a new way to stay in touch with friends or meet new people.I responded saying I hope your well and hope life is good. I've put this bad experience behind me and you need to stop reconnecting with me. I hope you find what your looking for but its certainly not me. He responded saying sorry I didn't realise you were on my email list.I can't face talking to him as I don't want to get hurt. I don't understand why he has to lie about my email address. Why can't he just say what's on his mind?Did I do the right thing to ignore him?
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (10 December 2011):
 Hi,
Poor guy give him a chance...
It happened 3 years ago, and you knew he was in a relationship, so it's not his fault. I am guessing he's single now, so he's trying to reconnect with you. What happened 3 years ago was not his fault. It was just wrong timing. I know you've been hurt, but it's not like he was playing games with you, misleading you or giving you false hope.
Why don't you give him a try to be your friend again? Who knows what this can lead to... If nothing else, you can become good friends... He seems like a nice guy. It's hard to find nice, normal, good friends nowdays.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2011): He's making an effort to be your friend. If you continue shooting him down or ignoring him he will eventually tire, walk away and never look back at you. Ignore him and he'll disappear from your life forever never to be seen or heard from again. Is that what you want?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2011): You need to grow up and act like a mature person. He sounds really nice. I think you should suck it up and not be so mean to him. You say you want him to just talk to you. But you are shooting him down, when he is trying to be friendly. He might want to break the ice and even apoligize. Give the poor guy a break. Show some compassion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2011): It sounds like you still have feelings for him and haven't got over him yet and it sounds like he was testing the waters to see if you still cared about him but when you essentially told him to get lost it probably made him feel rejected and hurt so he probably tried to cover it up by making it appear that he reconnected to you accidently. Maybe he misses you. Maybe he regrets losing you. The ball's in your court. Don't be afraid to go for what you want. Regret sucks big time. Good luckn
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