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female
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41-50,
*RICAN
writes:Hi,im confused any suggestion will be appreciated.im in relationshi for ayear, we serious talking marriage now, bt sometimes i wonder whom im dealing with,.my b/f acts stngy.i buy him gifts on every occasion, cooks him meals,and treats him well because i like doing it for him, but weneva he does something ,he kees reminding me eg u have been cooked blah blahblah..we r currently in LDR bt communicate daily,bt lately wen calls me he asks if i have calling card,and i usually say yes and call him back, i feel bad though i havent mentioned it to him,y cant he use his money to call me. thirdly i recently visited him in his country,i stayed at his place,but he never bought me a gift or even a souvenier, when i asked him y i neva got anything from him he got upset,most of my friends feel he should have at least given me alil present ..today is our anniverary, i sent him a gift, he called me ths morning and wished me happy anniversary, he previously asked for my adress, so ths morning he says ihe doesnt trust the mail delivery pple, so he will give me the anniversary gift when we meet in feb...i feel like he treats me cheaply and doesn't wanna spend money on me.i hav bought him xmas gift which i will send tomorrow..im a single mom of 6 yr child, im i overeacting or is somthing wrong, pls advise..
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (10 December 2011):
 pretty much what Honeypie said. you do not do thing for your partner just to get them to do for you. nor do you give them gifts to get them to give you gifts back.
what is his financial situation? is he cheap with everyone and everything or just you?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 December 2011):
 Stop giving him gifts, if you expect him to give you one, because you gave him one. Tit for tat doesn't work.
Does he work? Do you know how his financial state it? Seems to me he's not very financially stable, I mean he can't even pay to call you every now and then? Hinkey.
And how come he didn't have you address if you have been in a relationship for a year? I mean how was he supposed to send you stuff?
I would be a little offended that he didn't even send you a card at least or ordered flowers online (yea I know they aren't cheap), but at least that way he can send you a little something without having to deal with the mail delivery people.
It could be that he just isn't the kind of guy who likes to spoil his GF, maybe you need to tell him about yout expectations?
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