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writes:Is it really so bad to want the "label"?I've been dating a guy for about 2 months and things have been going well, but he's doesn't seem to have the desire to become exclusive. I certainly never had the need to rush into anything, but after dating for a while, we've become more and more like boyfriend and girlfriend anyway, and I'm feeling attatched. Today, I basicaly told him to 'shit or get off the pot,' and he took it like I was asking him to marry me. He said that if we enjoy our time together, that's all that matters.I know that not all couples need that label to be happy, but personaly, I feel kinda vulnerable without it. If we're not moving toward something, I feel like I might as well be seeing other people.Does anyone have similar thoughts on the matter, or am I just being crazy? Reply to this Question
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reader, FallenEsme  +, writes (29 May 2008):
The label isn't "Bad" or "Good" or anything else.
But a relationship pretty much by definition can only progress as far as the /least/ comfortable person allows it to.
It's possible he's been hurt in the past, or it's possible he's afraid of commitment.
Hell, it's possible that he actually just doesn't like labels on principle.
There's a lot of possibilities, and whether to make it 'official' or not should be both your decision.
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