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*hurman35
writes:I sit up crying every night while my husband sleeps wondering if i am the problem to this relationship. i am outspoken and i speak the truth all the time, even if it hurts peoples feelings, i am very cautious and veryprotective of what is mine. i am shy around new people and i always size them up from afar until they talk to me. lately my husband has been trying to change me: at first he said that its a trait that he loves about me, hes evn wrote it in a poem. i have been easing up on the negativity and letting my gaurd doan with strangers. in that time frame i have been sexualy harrassed ...and me not being protective of my child my next door neighbors daighter was in mines face, with boogers and what not coming out of her nose, with a cough that said "im sick" normally i wouldnt put my self out there for men to talk to me so i wonder if i were a real ( b**ch ) would that guy have even approached me. and if i told my neighbor hey can you get your daughter away i dont want mine to catch a cold , after she thinks that its"""allergies""" and says dont worry she will be fine and whenim about to say something my husband buts in and puts me in a position where " if you make a scene it will be embarrassing".. would my daughter be up till 3 in the morning crying with snot coming out of her nose. now im staying up making sure she doesnt become a victim to SIDS.. but all my husband can say to me, you just hate everyone, you dont have to talk to them but i will. iknow when to be nice and when not to be.. i dont know if its really my problem, i need advice, i hope someone can help.. thank you for even reading this hope to read some comments until next incident
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009): There's nothing wrong with being forthright and speaking the truth, I try to do the same, but I tend to think of others' feelings before opening my mouth unless they're being objectionable towards me.
Sometimes it's better to say nothing and skirt around it some other way. If your child is out playing with a snotty nosed youngster she'll probably catch a cold, but let's face it, everyone catches a cold now and then, and thereafter become immune to that one particular common cold virus so in some ways it's a good thing to catch a cold once in a while. Instead of telling your neighbour to keep her snotty nosed kid indoors, call your kid inside out of the other kid's presence.
There's only so much cotton wool you can wrap a child in. There's nothing wrong with being protective - it's every mother's instinct to protect their child, but the chances of yours falling victim to SIDS because of a cold are quite remote.
I'm not sure where the sexual harassment fits in here and maybe I'm missing your point altogether.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009): Well....from what it seems you are BLUNT...alot of people can't handle that. Im out of the Navy myself , single dad at that of a little girl. I struggle with being protective of her in my community. After taking child care counseling classes and a great course in College..Organizational Behavior. I learn "Pussy Communication Skills" ... How to say things a certain without hurting people feelings. Things like talking softly and smiling alot. The trick is to come off approach as if you want to get along and say what you gotta say nicely. I tell ya I still struggle with it to this day. Even my daugther gets the Blunt side of me more often when she screws up in school or at home. The key to it all is to remain true to yourself , but realize you are surrounded by alot of PUSSIES..and as you know Pussies just want to get along. But Keep in mind you are a Male body part down below and you CAN just pound them softly instead of hard at first. Once they get use to the way you POUND or talk. Then you can lay it on thick. lol..And tell your Husband to help for warn people about you. He fell in love with the way you are. He should back you no matter what. Cause it seems as though you have good intent, but just no so soft approach. You two as a team can take on the neighborhood or social setting together. He needs to do a better job at giving others Heads up. Ohh one more thing...Pussies like it when you apologize for being YOU. It makes them feel all warm and fuzzy as well as them Kissing your ass later....Your fine....just treat people like 1st graders.
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