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writes:ok so my boyfriend and i got into a real heated argument on monday.. he said things like i want to be single and its over ... usually when we fight we talk like right after but it has been 3 days... I called him and left him message ..... but no reply... Should i just take it as its really over? Reply to this Question
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reader, Reebe  +, writes (18 January 2008):
 You don't say how serious your argument was, but if your arguing alot maybe he needed a break from it.
I would maybe send him 1 more message asking him if he was sure he made the right choice in finshing things.
If he doesn't reply or answers back that he is sure that he wants to end things, wait a few days to see if he answers, then I'm afraid you'll need to move on.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 January 2008):
 Did you say sorry in your message? This time the fire burned longer and has not died down yet.
If you want to go extinguished his fire , you need to go catch him , say that you are sorry , hug and kiss him and everything will be back to normal. Don't wait too long or it will become a bush fire and burned everything down.
Can you do that or pride and ego prevent you from saying sorry?
It does not matter whose fault but if you want him back , you will have to do that.
If you don't want him back , then you can forget about him till he crawls back to you and beg you to let him in again.
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (18 January 2008):
 "my boyfriend... said things like i want to be single and its over ... usually when we fight we talk like right after but it has been 3 days... I called him and left him message ..... but no reply... Should i just take it as its really over?"
Sounds like it to me. Sometimes people need time to cool off but 3 days with no contact is longer than usual in my opinion.
Most of the time I'd want to make up right after a disagreement/row/argument. In my last relationship sometimes we'd leave it, both being stubborn I suppose, but guaranteed the next morning we'd be on the phone patching things up.
"he said things like i want to be single and its over"
People do sometimes say things they don't mean during the heat of the moment. However, I think if he's not responding to your messages and hasn't been in touch for 3 days, I would say it really is over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): Try him a couple more times as it could just be that this argument is bigger than the others.
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