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writes:I wish I looked like a pornstar I feel like my life would be so much better if I was beautiful, who out there is beatiful but got dumped? I need to know it doesn't matter, I am so depressed.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (8 July 2012):
 If you are truly depressed, you need to go talk to your doctor because it is a seriously debilitating disorder and needs treatment ASAP.
My friend who is a total man-magnet, the whole package of beauty and confidence, she's been dumped and treated awfully by men. Being beautiful has nothing to do with anything. I have been told I am quite beautiful/hot, I've been dumped, had guys treat me badly, it happens to everyone.
There's no special treatment in love for good-looking people or people with large breasts. In fact I know a lot of my friends with large chests/who have the pornstar body seem to get treated WORSE because large breasts seem to be a slime-magnet. You say you wish you looked like a pornstar, but the kind of guy who picks a woman for the way she looks is exactly the kind of guy who will break your heart!
Love sometimes hurts, it's a cliché because it's true. People are rarely compatible, and you can't know if you are or aren't until you're already emotionally invested. It sucks, but it has nothing to do with the way you look. You just have to be choosy with who you invest in and hope for the best and eventually, you'll find someone great.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2012): You need to get treated for depression and you need to stop watching porn if it's making you feel that way.
Most people want to feel beautiful, but most people don't sit there crying about it thinking life would somehow be magical if they did look that way.
You got dumped it happens to everyone, you need to move on and get over it. I've been dumped lots of times some were worse than others and I got over all of them. Life is not easier based on looks, life is easier when you're smart. So wise up and stop comparing yourself to others.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (8 July 2012):
 Being beautiful has nothing to do with getting dumped or not. You get dumped if things don't work out, not because of the way you look! If the reverse was true, film actors and porn stars would have everlasting relationships!!
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reader, Abella +, writes (8 July 2012):
 You can be supremely Beautiful and Still get dumped.
Beauty alone does not hold a man who never intended to be faithful or who was always shallow from the start.
Exceptionally BEAUTIFUL women who are not porn stars are dumped daily.
But a Porn Star would be NEVER considered as a girlfriend by many really nice good decent men, just because she was a Porn star.
Please, instead, hot foot it to your Doctor at double-quick time and ask your Doctor to please start treating your Depression. This very very common Illness is NOT your fault. It it completely Treatable. It Responds very well to treatment. And Ask the Doctor to also refer you to a Therapist who can start come Cognitive behavioural Training (CBT) to help with your ongoing battle with depression and help address some issues that are hindering you in your life at the moment.
Then you can go on later to establish some good relationships.
Being a Porn star is not a Happy place to be. Borrow the film "Human Trafficking" with Donald Sutherland and then tell me you would still like to work as a Porn Star.
I doubt you would after you see the Callous treatment of women and the Disrespect heaped on women in this industry.
You deserve a much better life with nice friends and a much better life with Good people who respect you.
best Wishes
Abella
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (8 July 2012):
 Being beautiful does not prevent you from being dumped. You need not to look any further than your favorite movie star to discover that it does not matter how much money you make, how gorgeous you are you may still get dumped. Think Jennifer Aniston when she got dumped by Brad Pitt. Think Sandra Bullock when her new man dumped her for some tatto skank (who, p.s. wasn't able to hang onto him either) even Taylor Swift got dumped by John Mayer. The list goes on and on. When you get dumped it's because you didn't have anything in common with that person; maybe your personality just didn't jive with his. It has more to do with chemistry and how the two of you are wired. Not just physical beauty. But I admit it doesn't help your ego if your man dumps you for a woman whom you perceive to be prettier or sexier than you are. Hence the wish to be a porn star. That is alittle extreme because there are alot of men who are looking for a great woman; someone who is kind, gentle, compassionate; who they can take home to their Mother, building a life with and have children with. And I'd be willing to bet Mom wouldn't approve of a porn star. So don't be extreme. Just learn from each relationship and pretty soon you'll find the man who is right for you.
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