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*aysha_Smith_1994
writes:Hey a few months ago my ex forced me to have sex. i kept shouting at him n hitting him telling him to stop but he wouldnt.. i never told anybody except my best freind.. my ex is now saying it isnt classed as rape because we were a couple.it it true?x
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reader, Kaysha_Smith_1994 +, writes (16 August 2009):
Kaysha_Smith_1994 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Im was 14 at the time x
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reader, Kaysha_Smith_1994 +, writes (16 August 2009):
Kaysha_Smith_1994 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey I should probably mentioned in it that my ex was 17... i am thinking about telling my mam i just darnt. thank you everyone for the awsome advice x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): whilst i disagree with the 'highly illegal' bit,as 2years before 16 is not 'highly illegal' for sex,and disagree with who called the boy an adult,as they are both teens,i do agree that this was rape,and you need to report him to the police asap befor he does it to someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): Yes it is, no matter who it is. I don't know how you feel about telling the police, but I really think you ought to incase this happens to any of his future girlfriends, and he shouldn't be allowed to get away with doing this to you. I can imagine how upset you'd be too, so perhaps you should go to a counsellor or talk to an anonymous helpline for support. I hope you're able to recover from this (mentally and physically) and put your ex where he belongs... in prison! Good luck
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reader, Ask me anything. +, writes (9 August 2009):
Whoa!!! im extremely concerned for you, first of all, what this boy has done is a very serious criminal offence, for which he could be looking at life imprisonment!!! From what you have described, it is rape, it sounds like he was trying to justify it with silly excuse, you are also under the age of 16, which even if you had consented to it, he would have still committed an offence, if you are under 13 this is even more serious!!! YOU MUST TELL SOMEONE!!!!!The police definetly need to know, this ale could be a sexual predator, and needs to be brought to account, i feel ashamed to call people like that men, and be put in the same catagory as them as a male, they want hanging, regardless of how you feel about him, or how you think you feel about him, you have your self respect, which is why you said no, please please please tell someone, i urge you, ask you friend to be with you when you do, speak to your mum or dad, or a family firend, social worker, youth worker, teacher at school, anybody you feel comfortable with, but you must tell somebody, this male needs locking up, if not for your safety, but for every other inncoent little girls safety.You are a young girl, a teenager, and he is an adult, that is wrong, very wrong. If speaking to the police is something you want to do, and i urge you again and again, then they will offer you all the support you need, they will not tell anyone who you dont want to know, they will treat you with dignity and respect, and take things at your pace, it wont be your average bobby who deals with it, it will be a specially trained and well experienced officer,You will also need some king of emotional support at some point, and this can be arranged for you, please speak to your parents or an adult and the police, you need to, you cant let this play on your mind any longer.And most importantly, dont blame yourself!!! a lot of people in your posistion blame themselves in some way or another, its the scumbags out there like this male who are to blame, your just guilty of being a nice person, who someone has taken the piss out of, please do the right thing, and speak to someone who can help as soon as possible!!!!!!!!I really wish you the best in the world, hold your head high, and dont blame yourself!!!Good Luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): He is full of shit and scared that you are going to tell on his ass. Tell on him, but beware of the detectives who like to mind-f**k people, as in ask the same questions over and over again in different ways to make it appear that you are lying. Keep your story straight, or don't talk to the detectives at all. I know in america we can swear to a magistrate or someone else, that someone did something to us and be fine, but Idk about England.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): When you said no and he still did it, it's call "RAPE".
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (8 August 2009):
 if he forced you to have sex and you told him to stop numerous occasions yes this is rape rape is were its not consented. not to mention your age its highly illegal you should tell your parents and then the police! and also see about get some councelling. good luck hun aphex
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