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writes:hello i need some advice is it possible to be in a relationship with someone for a year without having any feelings for you? My g/f and i was together for a year. She moved in with me and everything was fine then she left me but she told friends she was just there for a place to stay. We slept in the same bed had sex she told me many times that she loved me and wanted to be with me.When she left she told friends that she didn't have any feelings for me. Friends say that she had to have feelings for me or she wouldn't have stayed that long. What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2010): There may never be a way for you to know the answer to this question - at least not for a while.
She must have had *some* feelings for you to stay for so long, and could just be saying this to her friends to play it cool. What did she say to you about her feelings when she left?
On the other hand, blonde30s could be right. Some people can delude themselves into believing that they care for/love someone, but then the truth finally pushes its way to the surface.
If it's something that's going to eat away at you (which is only natural!), you may need to get closure. But you'll only get that from her... and it could take her some time for her to recognise/admit her true feelings.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (21 November 2010):
 Trust her actions, not her words dude.
As far as ascertaining the truth- the gossip of friends is unreliable, twisted and exaggerated at best... and that's when they haven't been told a lie to begin with!
She could have just been venting her frustration or bitterness at the breakup in one brief moment, only to turn around and talk about how good a boyfriend you were for the next 3 hours...
Have a guess at what's most likely to become the "hot potato" gossip that gets chucked to everybody...
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