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writes:Well recently I started dating this girl. At the moment I treat her like she's the only thin that matters but some how she seems not to take it and rejects it like she dosnt want to get hurt again. She was with her ex for a while and I'm just finding out they "did it" and bla bla bla but, if feels like just cause of him I can't get her to open ip or let me get closer to her . She dosnt give me any reason to stay she never acts excited or anything and when I asked her if she had any what so ever feelings for her her was like "nope". that was all she didn't convince me at all to stay with her I expect a "blank.. U r the person I'm with right now he's my past " an so on.I really want it to work out but idk if I wanna give her forever to finally feel open with me .. But I like her a lot. What do u think I should do?
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reader, Frankie v +, writes (24 November 2010):
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reader, Racna1305 +, writes (21 November 2010):
 Well you cant MAKE HER do anything. She has to choose to, and she cant let her past bleed into her future. Thing is everyone wants to put their past on the next and thats not fair to the new person. Be kind with her but dont push on the matter as much because doing so only pushes her further away from you. It took me months to get my girl to open to me because she was physically abused in her last relationship and was hurt multiple times. But I show her im different than them but I dont push on her to open up to me. I showed her I can trust in her, I informed her when i learned something from her and let her know what I appreciate about her. Doing these things will make her think better about herself and her value in the relationship. Bad side is with the way she is you gotta make sure you dont do anything that will question her trust, never even tell a white lie. Anything that questions her trust will make things difficult. Give it some time man, dont give up on her unless you just cant take it anymore and she isnt trying at all
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