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writes:Is it really possible not be able to diagnose, cause of sexual dysfunction by professionals? They say,they dont know...How common is that, that you go to the doctors and they say, well I don't know why do you have this problem.I have a longstanding ED. AND A COMPLETE LACK OF SEXUAL DESIRE. This is now really troubling my marriage,as I can't even tell my wife, why I keep losing my erections after few seconds, and why I never go for sex. It used to be very different. I don't say she is not patient. But it is frustrating . I was always perfectly healthy sexually. But my erections never works, and now I had all the tests you can imagine ,but no clue. What can I think, and what can I say to my wife, why is this happening? Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2011): I'M TO OP,THANKS FOR ALL ANSWERS.Few answers from me...Yes ,I went to see all specialist, (urologists,hormone specialist, heart specialists and even psychiatrists).they said, they don't have a diagnosis, they don't know why, because,I don't have health problems and I do have morning erections also.No, I'm not overweight, I don't smoke , never did, and I don't drink at all.I don't have an unhealthy lifestyle. Yes, we did talk with my wife, countless hours. But I honestly don't know what else to try.She is very sad. I think ,I'm attracted, to her but, its hard to say, as I have no sexual thoughts at all. Sorry to be so difficult, but it is a real puzzle to me too.I never really found anybody with the same combination...Any more idea is really appreciated.
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (16 June 2011):
 I work in the medical environment and know that Doctors can only look for something physical to cause ED.
Have you seen a SPECIALIST such as a UROLOGIST?
Are you in good health otherwise?
Talking to your wife about your concerns is THOUGHTFUL to her! She may be feeling rejected and thinking the ED is HER FAULT!
Chances are it is something psychological, not physical.
Step one, talk to your partner. Your sex life is SHARED with her, remember?
Best Wishes.
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (16 June 2011):
Doctors will be looking for something physical. You might be physically fine. If that is the case, it is emotional most likely. The other indicator that it is emotional is the statement "I can't even tell my wife". It sounds like there is a kind of way you cannot speak to her, or some subjects you cannot talk about. Whatever the difficult conversations in your life are, you need to start having them. Counselling can be a helpful tool to get through emotionally based difficulties, and there are other things you can try too.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 June 2011):
 have they tested your hormone levels?
what tests have you had?
do you drink?
do you smoke?
both of those contribute heavily to ED
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