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writes:I met this man by a chance meeting. I noticed him sitting on a bench reading and scribbling notes in his novel. Normally, I would have walked by-- I am not one to initiate any conversation especially since my husband passed away. But for some reason I was drawn to this man--the same way I was drawn to my husband 20 yrs. ago. So we chatted and found out we have this weird connection via some artist who in a very weird way thinks of me as his muse. When we looked at one another I felt this strange almost cosmic connection. So days go by and the artist calls me telling me this man told him he met me. He goes on and on about about how he lit up talking about me and the artist relayed how highly he thinks of me as well--he told this guy that we would be perfect for one another. Unfortunately this man has a girlfriend. I am not a forward person so probably will not pursue, but something keeps bringing me back-it was that feeling I had after walking away from him that afternoon. I felt peace and emotions for the first time in a year. I do not know if anyone out there believes in fate, but I do because it was the same chance happening that led me to my husband. I want to know if it is possible he felt it to, and if anyone else while in a relationship met someone else knowing she was the one- not the person they were presently with? I think from the way my artist friend told me he reacted when saying my name-- this man on the bench felt it too. It is hard to walk away from the potential because I feel it so strongly. Will most men just stick with their gf's or is there a possibility for us?
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (21 November 2010):
 I see no harm in suggesting to him that you're interested, maybe via the artist himself... but you've gotta respect that he's in a relationship right now and not try to wedge yourself into his life.
You'd expect that if he was your partner one day that he wouldn't be so easily swayed by another woman whom he may feel he has a "cosmic connection" with... So his willingness to give up his girlfriend for you could be an accurate indication of how unwavering a partner he may be to you.
I say that you merely talk him up to the artist and say you found him really cute etc... maybe even say "please don't tell him I said that". Then if the cosmos are truly with you then he'll tell this guy, the idea will be planted in this guys head and maybe when/if he ever breaks up with his girlfriend, then he may seek you out.
Or maybe you'll have a chance meeting on the street 5 years from now and you can write a hollywood screenplay on the whole thing :)
Good-luck anyhoo :)
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