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writes:Okay.. So i've been dating my now-wife since 2003. We married in 2006 and have 2 children...Today (in October of 2009) she came to see me at work, and informed me that she had tested positive for type 1 herpes. We both insist that we have been faithful since we first met. I guess the doctor kind of implied to her (along with the idea that i could possibly have been unfaithful) that it IS potentially possible for the disease to fester for year before flaring up.I guess i'm curious HOW many years this could potentially be?Does anyone know of any websites or any knowledge of the disease in this regard?How does one deal with this?I know right away my wife obviously had doubts that I had been completely faithful, but i swear that i have not been with ANYONE sexually besides her since we met.I have also never shown ANY symptoms of the disease (and from what i am told you must have a flare-up for the disease to be communicable.)Of course now i'm fairly certain that i probably HAVE the disease because we were intimate a short period of time (literally a day or 2) before the symptoms showed that resulted in her heading to the hospital.Which sucks. Are there any support sites out there for people in this situation?Thanks very much!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2009): Skin to skin contact is all it takes, you dont need to have very visable symptoms at all a tingle may be all that you get but it is still there. Yes it can and does lie dormant in some people and some people are lucky enough to only ever have 1 outbreak in their life. Ignorance is bliss to people who dont have this and doctors are more qualified than nurses seek advice from your GU clinic for the real and best answers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2009): As a woman that has herpes now...I can say & know for a fact that yes it can "fester" for years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the responses guys and gals.
I also found some similar information from a different link, Oldersister.
I guess my question is "how long is a couple of years?"
Like is 7+ a possibility? Cause that seems to be what i have to believe here.
I tried asking my doctor, and he kept sort of avoiding the question and saying "well, a couple of years" which makes me think that his implication is that "There is no way one of you didn't sleep around at some point"..
To be honest, i've always had the sneaking suspicion that, at one point when she was away at school (2 years into our relationship she moved 3 hours away and this lasted about a year).. I found some pictures that she had taken of herself that seemed an awful lot like potential profile pics, if ya know what i mean.
However i want to believe her with all of my heart, simply for the sake of our family.
The doc told me "There are probably some questions here that you will NEVER know the answers to, and this is really going to be a test of your relationship"..
That's an understatement.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (16 October 2009):
Though I'm not too sure, I think it can wait for years before showing up. However,it's best to ask your doctor. They would be able to help you more.
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