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writes: I am obsessed with hatred for women because i have always craved for sympathy from them where as what i end up getting is being manipulated, controlled, dominated and abused which further increases the feeling of hatred towards them and i feel a an earnest desire to demean and humiliate them in return. Is it possible for all women to be sympathetic towards me and if not, do they need to be hated for not fulfilling my expectations?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (8 July 2007):
 I'm with Love_him. Obviously, not all women are the same. Some are bad, some are good, some are wonderful. You cannot put everyone in the same category.
You know, I see you seek reassurance from women. Women, on the other hand, don't exactly need to give reassurance to a man; naturally, they want someone who can stand on his own feet. So maybe you keep meeting manipulators and et cetera because your own behavior attracts this kind of people. Check whether what you do is right or wrong. I'm afraid you are approaching women in the wrong way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): Firstly let me say that not all women are controlling and abusive, and it is unfortunate that any experiences with women you've had have been like this. Why do you feel that you should be sympathised with? Has something happened to you, or do you just feel you should have sympathy from them because of the way other women have treated you? If the latter is the case it's not up to other women to take responsibility for what another woman has done.
How would you feel if a women who had the attitude of "all men are bastards" came up to you and said "you're a man, you must therefore be a bastard"? You wouldn't want to be tarred with that brush, so in the same way you shouldn't be tarring other women with it either.
If I would suggest anything to you it would be to seriously seek out counselling. Some of the things you say make it sound like you are seeking justification to cause serious harm to women which is very dangerous territory. There can NEVER be justification to harm another person, NEVER. If you're angry, you need to talk it through with someone, work through it. Don't take it out on somebody else. Please, please think about what I've said and don't do anything you will later regret.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): Darling...
You need help seriously, i dont no what your life has been like as you dont say, Did you have a loving mother im sorry if this is upsetting for you as i dont want to do that....No one can give attention to another human 24/7 its mentally draining.... My ex husband wanted this and i got very ill he to hated women but there was a reason behind this as he wanted to be one, now i very rarely talk about this as it was a very difficult part of my life....
Are you really being dominated manipulated and controlled or are you feeling that this is what is happening?
You need help because well something is buried deep down there and you need to get to the bottom of it, I dont believe in hating it saps your energy in a very negative way love, Please go get checked out and try and get some help this sounds like a psycological problem you need to sort out hun you may even need tests to make sure you havent an illness of some sort.. Im saying this in a kind and caring way so that you hopefully can understand why you feel like this.. Please take care love mandy xxx
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reader, love-him  +, writes (8 July 2007):
 all women are different. if you are with someone and theydont make u happy or they done fulfill your expectations then i dont think ur in the right relationship..
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