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writes:The last few years I've been single and primarily friendless so I've stayed in watching tv trying to convince myself I wasn't bored. This year I'm still single, but my friends are coupled or will be out of town and I just can't stand the thought of yet another new year's at home. I'm kicking around the idea of going to see a band, comedy show, or some other type of performance alone since I'm not into the club/party scene. I'd stick with an early show and likely be home well before the countdown. I go out alone plenty, but holidays just seem different and like a single guy will stick out more than normal. What do you think? I'm not hoping to meet anyone, but do want to just have a drink, relax, and enjoy a show in the company of others without looks of pity. Is this possible? Have any other guys done this or would you? Reply to this Question
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (22 December 2014):
Dear OP,
I'm not a guy, so I am not sure if it's possible for men. But if I went out alone on new years' eve, I would end up crying in a corner. If I had to face all the couples and happy groups of friends, I would feel ultimately sorry for myself and wouldn't be able to enjoy any program. Except maybe for a movie at the cinema or some dark theatre.
Personally, I don't think people would give you looks of pity, because most people are way too self-absorbed on new years eve. What they care about is to have fun and to not get into a fight with each other about the program. It's rather the depressing feeling of being left out that would scare me from going out alone.
If I was you (I'm not.. but my love situation is not much different from yours), I'd make a new years' resolution to find some friends that will spend next new years eve with you. Or maybe even a woman. If you like music, comedy or performance, you might want to try this out as a new hobby. That way you can do something you enjoy, meet plenty of new people and impress the ladies.
In my experience, theatre guys, guys that are in a band and guys that know how to dance never have problems with finding a girl.
Another idea is to go out of town too, on new years' eve. It's possible that you can go with couchsurfing and someone will make a new years' eve party.
Anyway, all the best for 2015!
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (22 December 2014):
You were not born with your future wife next you. So being alone should not be an issue. Plus the only way to find the right woman is to be single...yes?
Go out and have fun...not dragging a long face that says "I am lonely, and need someone." I mean really have fun.
Some of my best times when I was younger happened by going out alone. The more real fun you are having, the more others want to have fun with you...know what I mean :)
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