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writes:Just a general question Is it okay for me to feel a bit insecure about my boyfriend going swimming with other girls? Say 5 girls, 3 boys. Im not too sure why im bothered about it seeing as i dont believe anything would happen at all. Just makes me feel a bit weird.
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reader, Dr siwale  +, writes (8 March 2011):
Hey... am speaking as a Man. in our culture thats not right. he will get familiar with those girls and before you realise it, he will be cheating on YOU.tell him how you feel. if he can change his ways, then He is showing that he LOVES you. do not be cheated, we men get easily tempted when we see nude bodies.so the wise thing to do, TAlk to Him about it. i personally think, You Love you Guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2011): Yeah i don't know who they are, and have never met them.
I cant make it on the day due to collage commitments, i asked if we could go the day after; since everyone there can make it on that day but no plans were changed.
Its not a big deal but i was wondering if it was normal to feel a bit weird about it..
Thanks - OP x
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (24 February 2011):
 As long as they're not skinny dipping at night and you trust your boyfriend then I don't see a problem.
How come you're not going? Wasn't invited? Can't swim? Have other engagements that day?
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reader, Illithid +, writes (24 February 2011):
 If he were going with just 1 girl, alone, I'd worry. If he were going with severak girls as the only guy, I'd be uncomfortable. But if it's mixed company and just going swimming with some friends, I'd be alright with it (but perhaps ask to go along to get to know his friends).
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reader, person12345 +, writes (24 February 2011):
 To answer both parts of your question, it's fine. It's normal to feel a little jealous or insecure, but it's also fine for him to be going. Don't worry, just the sight of girls in bathing suits isn't going to make him cheat. It's normal to feel a little insecure about it (I think most would at least a bit) but nothing will happen. And definitely don't try to stop him or get angry with him.
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (24 February 2011):
 I think it's ok to feel a little strange about your bf going out with girls who are basically just wearing underwear. My question for you is did he invite you?
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reader, Eilish  +, writes (24 February 2011):
 Yepppppp don't worry it's normal to feel insecure. But it's not like he's going with just 1 girl. Boys are going too. Learn to trust him a bit more xx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (23 February 2011):
I think it's perfectly fine. There are other boys there too, so it's not like anything can really happen. Perhaps you're not as trusting as you'd like to be?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2011): Yes, that's completely normal. If you don't think anything will happen then what's the problem?
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reader, sobes4444 +, writes (23 February 2011):
 It's ok to feel insecure about this situation if you don't know who the girls are, but if they're girls who aren't really attractive or just trusted friends, then don't sweat it.
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