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writes:So ive been having problems with this girl my Boyfriend went to highschol with, shes in a relationship and lives like 200 miles away, so im not worried about him cheating on me with her, plus i look better, anyways this girl has been telling my bf she loves him it makes me uncomfortable so i asked her to stop and she wont...she insist its only a brother sister type love...but i still dont like it it just doesnt seem right..he even asked her to stop because it makes me uncomfortable...am i wrong?or is she? what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, HerionNiki +, writes (8 January 2009):
HerionNiki is verified as being by the original poster of the question she didnt call any today or txt, so i hope shes starting to get it and Garion and i decided if she continues we are gonna change his number and he will no longer be in contact with her because she sent him a message on myspace last night saying she is gonna kill us, were not to worried about it but neither of us want the drama ya know...
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (7 January 2009):
 Yeah she's being obsessive, its pretty clear she wants him. The funny thing is by her doing that it's actually bringing you guys closer together and bringing their friendship in question. eventually she will stop but it depends on if he answers the calls when your not there. if he does then she will continue to do it because she in her mind believes she's being tagged along. if he does not answer then eventually she will let go (may take some time).
It seems as though she want's to get a message across, that message is "i love you" id ask him to change is number and let all the ppl he wants to keep know if he's genuinely friends with her eventually he can call her back say in six or 8 months depending on how he feels and then chat with her as her friend.
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reader, HerionNiki +, writes (7 January 2009):
HerionNiki is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell today my bf told he he was sick of he treating me like im no one even if they have been friends for a long time ive been his gf for almost 3 years and its not going to change anytime soon and now i think she is trying to break us up because she is telling me he says it back all the time, which i know is a lie because my bf isnt really into using the term "love" (except with me = ] ) because he has trust isues....i want to beat her ass but i know its not the right thing to do.... Garion told her to lose his number yet she still keeps calling she called him 4 times today while i was with him....
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reader, Griffo +, writes (6 January 2009):
Shes acting stupid. It seems as though if she does it genuinly as his friend, she dosen't understand the cosequences of it. I mean love and the word love especially directed to somone is a pretty strong thing. she can't go throwing around love like its nothing all the time.
Secondly say just this: "Do you respect me?" is she says yes, then ask her again "If you resepect me and my bf then you will stop playin us for a fool and stop saying that you love him all the time."
Thirdly by the sounds of her pushing the fact that she continues to do it clearly indicates she does not respect you that much and does not respect your bf's wishes. But you need to confirm this with the above question. It could be that like I sad she throws around the love like its nothing. She obvously has never felt love before and it also seesm its what she wants and that why she says it all the time.
All signs tell me she is playing silly games (but might not know it). What does her bf say about her telling another bloke she loves him, ask her bf what he thinks.
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reader, HerionNiki +, writes (6 January 2009):
HerionNiki is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGarion, my bf, told her it makes me uncomfortable, she still doesnt wanna stop, and there isnt anything between them but it really does eat me up inside that she thinks she can tell him she loves him, heres the convo ive been having with her about it
me- Hey this is Niki, Garions gf, just to let you know, if Garion hasn't already, I don't appreciate you telling him you love him ccus he is my bf not trying to start shit just letting you know it makes me uncomfortable.
her- well clearly u see im in a relationship i say i love u to all my close friends n hes been like a big brother for yrs u dnt have to worry
me- I really dont care , i would just appreciate it if you didnt tell him you love him k thanks.
her -
look i can say is im sorry but im not going to change the way i am simply bc you dont like it he is like a brother and you need to stop being so paranoid if he loves you he wont care about anyone but you so unless youre not sure about youre relationship or whatever you need to stop lashing out on me on occupy your time elsewhere
(side note this all went down on myspace cus this girl left him a pic comment on a pic of his arm cut wide open that said "this would only amuse you love you" and the cut wasnt amusing it was painful he got jumped by 4 black guys because one of them decided they could do unforgiveale things to me and Garion didnt like it)
me- look I asked you once to stop telling him that you love him.....if you dont stop thats your business but i promise you that you will regret it...
it would be the same if some other girl was telling your boyfriend she loved him...you wouldnt like it very much
im not worried about you guys being friends i know i look better than you so im not worried about it...
point is i dont want another girl telling my bf they love him...and i know Garion loves me he took the freakin cut you seem to think "amuses" him for me dumb BitCh!!!
her-
look im not a bitCh and for someone who doesnt want to start shIt you sure do alot of it i understand where you are coming from but the god damn fucken way you started demanding for me to stop is fucken stupid and very highschool like if you would've asked with out your damn attitude then i would understand and simply say fine and not do it again but i dont fucken know you much less started shit you so unless you ask with out your god damn attitude then i dont see why i should do something for you. i know garion and hes very happy and im glad you make him happy but like i said theres no reason for your atittude.
me- I know Garions happy hes always been happy with me
thats not the point
point is i was nice about it to begin with and even Garion asked you to stop and you dont want to so yeah now im gonna start shIt cus it makes me uncomfortable that you tell him you love him...
idc what type of love it is if i see it again we WILL have a PROBLEM.....
its not like im saying he cant talk to you so if you care about him as much as you say you do then you will stop because he asked you to, not just me
and i didnt have to be nice the first time I asked, i chose to be because i love Garion and i know you guys are friends so now just fucken stop tellin him you love him and this shit doesnt have to go on anymore
sorry its so long just wanted you to have better understanding
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reader, Griffo +, writes (6 January 2009):
brother sister type love? what crap! theres no such thing unless they are actually brother and sister.
Just tell her to lay off, tell your bf its making you uncomfortable and that you would like to be respected here. Even tell her this. she has to accept it to display her respect for you - if she does not respect you and your wishes then she's likley out to bite you and she's playing you for a fool - Unless she's not understanding the consequences its causing.
what does you bf say??? please reply
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reader, Flporrego  +, writes (6 January 2009):
 Well this seems like something that your boyfriend should take care of. He needs to stand up to her and tell her to stop. He should stop contacting her and ignore her until she stops. If it makes you uncomfortable then your boyfriend should be more than willing to make her stop. Just talk to him..
If all else fails though, your going to have to us this as an opportunity to mature. Realize that you will date guys that get hit on and you just have to learn to accept that not everything will always go your way. Realize that there's people with ten times the problems. If your boyfriend really cares about you, everything will be fine. Relax, enjoy life before it gets heavy. Everything will be ok :).
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