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writes:Is it ok for married man to have female friends? No sex just talking on the phone and text messaging?
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (11 October 2007):
 In a way it is a silly question as why cant an individual have a friend regardless of their sex.
But in reality it just doesnt seem to work out like that.
I dont know any married man who has a bunch of female friends that's entirely innocent. Either that person is a closet gay or they are screwing the girls. I'm not saying this is the case with you, but it is an unusual situation.
Only he knows what is really going on ,and you are the closest person to him. Is your relationship still strong? Are you still having sex like you used to? Does he seem distant? Basically there are plenty of signs a man gives off if he is having an affair. Look out for them.
What type of text messages does he send, is it friendly banter or more personal stuff, or sexual?
The bottom line is it may be totally harmless but on the flip side he could be having an affair. You are in the best position to judge that.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (10 October 2007):
 I really think it depends on the couple really. If you are not the jealous type and these woman mean nothing to him, like colleagues or girls he has known for ages then i guess its ok. But if he is meeting these girls like say in bars or on the internet then i would say that this is wrong.
Take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2007): No. I am married, and I would never text & talk on the phone to a male friend, and I would not be accepting of my husband doing it with another female either. Of course, there are times when it may be appropriate, say if a fat guy I work with text messaged me to ask if I'd come in early the next day to work b/c he was going to be late, etc..I say that because that has happened before.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2007): If the man's wife is fully aware of his friendship with another woman and is ok with this, then yes, it's fine. However, if the man is texting someone either behind his wife's back or without her knowledge, then it isn't ok. Personally, I can't believe that any wife would be fine about her husband having female friends who are not her friends too, but some women are ok with it (having said that, they are usually the women who are the last to know their husbands are having an affair X
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2007): More info would be good. It is ok to have female friends, just as long as you dont let them take over your life if you have a gf or wife! Then they need to be put a bit in the background, but not got rid of altogether. We all need friends, be it male or female.
take care
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (10 October 2007):
 Yes it is.
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reader, S - soadlover :-) +, writes (10 October 2007):
 i think it depends on the couple
if you are not jealous and male friend of your own then personally i think it is ok
if you deffinantly know that nothing is going on between them then it is ok he probably sees her as a sister or something or has much respect for his wife that he would never make a move
but like i said it depends on the people involved
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