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writes:I am happily married, but I am attracted to the same sex. I love looking at women, and I find myself fantisizing about doing things to/with them. I talked to my husband, and he thinks it is cool,(as long as he gets to watch/join in, but I don't have to if the other woman isn't comfortable with it.) I just need some help with a few different things1. How do I find out if I am really Bi-Sexual?2. How do I find out if a girl I like likes girls?3. How do you approach a Bi/Lesbian woman? 4. How do I act if we start dating? (Is it normal for girls to buy each other flowers and stuff like that?)5. How do I let her know when I am ready for sex, and what do I do when we are having sex?All answers are apreciated and don't worry about offending me.
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reader, chill  +, writes (9 November 2007):
hi chill here again, flowers out! to in the face, flirt like mad and check responses, have a laugh together, and at each other, send txt stating you miss her, get an intrest that suits you both, then cinema, or dvd bottle wine, no horrors, romantic, touching onporn with a hint of lesbian action, I agree with the same sex thing though not for me, couldn't bear my babe to be with a guy,but females are loving caring emotional and want to please, geezers want in out in out shake it all about, snore snore, (I exclude myslf)enjoy but tread carefully, you sound like you know what you want.
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reader, chill +, writes (9 November 2007):
Hi, I am male a laid back guy, my wife informd me that she has feeling's for a girl at work who is gay, she said she wants to kiss her, my wife is 5'8" gym figure and goregeous,she wants to experience this and I said that it wont just stop at a kiss,hands will be a roaming, if she likes it and wants to do it again then i told her she is bi,a kiss can tell you everything about a person, how they feel about you, drop major hints, if she is bi then she will pick up on them, worked with my wife, in relation to letting this female know how she felt and not all blokes want to join in, i would hate it if someone jumped in to my fantasy, go girl go with the flow, but be honest with your bloke,two many broken hearts.
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reader, Hannah5066  +, writes (19 October 2007):
 Whatever you do, be sure to relaxed and take it slowly. I say this because when i deceided i wanted to explore, i ended up having a lot of feelings which i had to deal with. I would also say that when you find that girl for sex/dating whatever be honest and upfront with them. That way no one gets hurt.Good luck, enjoy and be safeHannahX
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (11 October 2007):
 fair enough mate, if you're both into it go for it and Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionActually, We have diccused me dating a woman and he is fine with it. If he wanted to date a man, I would be fine with it,too. It the opposite sex that is off limits in our relationship.
I do agree with you about the lesbian thing. I will stick with a bisexual.
Thanks
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (11 October 2007):
I'm a bit worried as it sounds as though you are looking for a date. "How do I act if we start dating"? Huh? arent you married?
I dont think your husband has dating in mind when he consented to you having a "relationship" with another girl. He means sex .
It's wonderful that your husband is open minded to this and you should count yourself lucky that he is going to let you explore this side of his sexuality. Put it this way how would you feel if he suddenly expressed an interest in having a relationship with another man? Wouldnt you feel left out?
As for what to do? What do you like? As a women you are in prime position, you know what a women likes , chances are the girl will be into similiar things ( you know how to push the right buttons as you have them yourself )
If a girl is someone who has done this before , I'm sure she will have all the readily available equipment anyway ( toys etc. )
by the way, your husband is more likely to be involved if the other girl is bi-sexual or bi-curious like yourself. Lesbians I imagine dont appreciate men looking on and masturbating.
I therefore think the key thing here is not to look at this as a relationship but as a means of exploring your sexuality.
Youre very lucky you have an understanding husband.
I would explore the various magazines and websites which cater for these types of things, you will be able to vett the applicants and find someone both you and your husband like . Your husband shouldnt be left on the sidelines here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2007): Could you message me privately? I think I might be able to put you in touch with someone 'In the know' on this subject.
Phil
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