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writes:Does anyone think it's good to have long distance relationships/Online ones? If you have any experience could you let me know if it's worth it.I met this guy and he's amazing ( it's been almost 2 years ) we get along, he knows mostly everything about me and he's opened up to me and he's only ever done that once to a girl.He said that he wants to come over and be with me and I really do want him to but , i'm just nervous.Theres a 7 years age difference but , that doesn't bother either of us.Sometimes I think he isnt interested anymore then , he suddenly is he says we shouldnt be commited atm but , then he says stuff like "if we don't work out".It really confuses me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010): hi i am in a LDR i met him online i am not saying its easy or hard but we are fully committed he texts me everyday and we speak on msn everynight odd time on the phone we see each other when we can cause with us both having a child each its school hols i get to see him i have been with him over a year now and i feel you cant do the LD thing forever one has to move so that is me i am looking to be nearer him so then we can really get things off the ground i feel thats what this relashionship needs to be nearer each other and he wants that too we have a strong connection and we finish each others sentences off i feel he his my soul mate he his me in a mans body i feel i have met myself but i wont move in with him just yet if i move nearer to him would see him probably everyday and night and then would get to know his ways and probably things would be tons stronger so yes a LDR is ok to have but you have to be fully committed put a lot of effort into it and be loyal and trustworthy and that we both are and cause i miss him so so much moving nearer to him.. so yes it is alright to have a LDR but you have to put a lot of work into it . so good luck...
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reader, gray264  +, writes (9 August 2010):
 I met my husband online.
I'd known him online for three years before meeting him in person. I won't call it a mistake to have married him after meeting him only three times, but it was difficult. Online is a place where anyone can be anyone. It was a major risk meeting with him, and I knew that. But I did it anyways.
We've been married for three years, but it was extremely hard at first. We knew close to nothing about each other's living habits. It was almost like throwing two strangers together. I think the only thing that saved us was we were both too stubborn to give up.
So what my advice is, is get to know him in person a bit. Visits and dates. You find out a lot about a person when you're actually together.
LDRs are complicated things. I wouldn't commit to each other until you've had a chance to get to know each other in person.
That's just my 2 cents.
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reader, Lotsalove. +, writes (9 August 2010):
 Ok, I am in a long distance relationship and have been for 16 months. I am in the Uk and my boyfriend, now fiance, is in the USA. Im due to move there in 5 weeks. We met online and met each other physically after 4 months. Honestly, it is the hardest thing I have ever done. Some people say 'It must be easy, you can do what you want' But those people know little. A LDR takes ALOT of time, patience, and TRUST. Oh and money, whether its phone bills or flights. We have ALOT of problems to do with trust, the amount of arguements we have is endless, but that comes with the relationship. My boyfriend is in the military so is limited to leaving the country alot, therefore I've sacrificed alot of my life to fly back and forth regurlarly but he pays for it. Let me give you a heads up, I know you say you've been 'together' for 2 years, Have you ever PHYSICALLY met him? You may hit it off online but you havent physically hit it off. He may be a complete bore? He may eye many other women up? He may smell? Etc..
I'm only 20 and I think thats young to be in a LDR but your even younger at either 16 or 17? If he is that serious about you, why hasnt he flown to see you already? The problem with long distance relationships is that you can cover up a whole lot. If I wanted to (I dont) hang out over a guys house, I can and my boyfriend would never find out. You boyfriend can say to you 'Im in Work' when really hes got the day off and hes doing stuff you dont know about. Im not saying this is the case, but you never know what hes doing, can you live with that? Sometimes I thought my relationship was not worth the effort, but then my boyfriend flew to the UK as a suprise and asked me to marry him. Your young, why cant you have a 'normal' relationship with someone in the same country as you? You shouldnt be commited if 1- you havent even met each other and 2- He's not 100% with you.
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