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writes: I have a bf you see but sometimes i catch myself flirting with guys alot. is it ok to flirt? I mean i know i would be ticked off if he did the same but still its so hard sometimes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2006): Flirting is natural and normal behaviour for some people. It means nothing. It is a way of affirming your sexuality and assessing if you are still attractive to others if you are in a long term relationship. It can be an ego boost. It does not mean you are actively looking for another partner.
Go for it. Stop worrying, just don't go too far.
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reader, joanna44 +, writes (22 May 2006):
 to be honest i think it depends how serious your realtionship is with your boyfriend, if u truely loved him you wouldnt catch yourself looking at another guy but everyone flirts and its not really that bad just as long as it dosnt go further than just talking, think about your boyfriend and how you would feel if he was flurting with other girls and then you'll know what to do.
*treat people how you would wana b treated youself*
gd luck hun x x x
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (22 May 2006):
 I think perhaps if you feel that it would hurt you if you saw him doing this, perhaps you should try and curb it.
It is natural and normal to have a bit of a flirt but there is a line that perhaps you feel you are crossing a little bit.
Maybe you should think about why you are doing this? Are you feeling a bit bored or unappreciated in your relationship and perhaps subconciously you are looking for a little bit of excitment or positive reinforcement from someone else?
The bottom line is, it is ok for a little bit of innocent flirting with people, as long as that is all it is and it goes no further. If you think or know your partner is feeling uncomfortable, time to reel it in.
I think the trick you have to use is when you are chatting with a guy, before you say something a bit naughty or suggestive or whatever, stop and think "would I say that if my boyfriend was standing here?" and the answer is no, then perhaps it is best not to say it to avoid problems! That is a pretty good rule to use that way it will avoid him feeling hurt, you feeling guilty and also perhaps this other guy lead on!
Good luck
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (22 May 2006):
 "I mean i know i would be ticked off if he did the same." Have you heard of the golden rule? If yes, then you know the answer to your question. If it bothers you, then why wouldn't your flirting bother him? So if you flirt with other guys then don't you dare say a word if he decides to flirt with other girls. Or stop flirting so you can be entitled to chastise your man when he flirts. Either way, follow that golden rule.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2006): Sure it's okay to flirt with other guys. I bet your bf would get someone jealous, possibly, but that's okay. It keeps him on his toes, even if you do really love him. Haha. Mind you, once you allow another guy to touch you, it's a different story. [ponders] Mhm...
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