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writes: I have been with my bf for quite a while now and every problem that seems to arise he always puts it out on me! for example i asked him to not ever do drugs around me because it hurts me to see him do it and he promised that he would never. well yesterday he did and i started crying and i went outside. he started to get mad at me and say that he is going to continue to do it so i should get used to it. its always my fault in his eyes and he always tells me if i keep acting like this then its going to be over. It dosent make any sense what so ever! what should i do or tell him?
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reader, joanna44 +, writes (22 May 2006):
 look if hes your boyfriend he should start acting like it, tell him to respect your wishs and do his drugs else where or better yet hun tel him not to do them at all and if he dont respect what your saying tell him its over, it will break your heart hun but u cant let him walk all over you and treat you like this you've got to be strong and stick to what you stay.
gd luck. x x x
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (22 May 2006):
 How someone chooses to act, it is not your fault, and it will never be your fault.
This is using a typical abusive style of control, shifting blame and not accepting responsibility for their actions. I do wonder how long you've been dating, because this behavior is the beginning signs of a more dangerous abuse cycle. This behavior will naturally lead into him hurting you and saying it's your fault.
Don't allow him to use mind games to control you. The only way to stop this is to call the bluff and follow through. The best way: right now call a friend ask if you can stay with them, pack your things and leave. NEVER take this kind of crap again.
DO NOT give second chances to anyone who ever treats you like this!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2006): If he truely cared for you then he would respect your wishes... sorry hun, to me it sounds like he's not worth the fight.
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