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writes:Hi, right now i like a girl and i dont really talk to her. So i keep thinking if i should add her on my facebook friends list so i/we could talk a lot.But the point is if i should add her without asking or asking first.Whenever i look at her my shyness comes out and can not open my mouth. I need to stop this shyness or else i cant ask her.Should i add her on without asking or should i ask her first? Please help. Especially ladys. How would you feel if a guy u know add you on his friends list.Oh yeah and im pretty shur she likes me.
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reader, Blod  +, writes (14 October 2009):
 I reckon you should just add her. You do know her so it's not as if you're complete strangers, and she could always decline anyway.I wouldn't mind at all if a guy I knew just added me. I don't think you have anything to lose. Go for it.Good Luck. X
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (14 October 2009):
 I always thought on Facebook you have to ask someone's permission before you add them. Just ask her if you could add her, say you'd like to get to know her better.
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reader, heyy +, writes (14 October 2009):
If she likes you she would accept you. but! You shouldnt rely on technology to get that spark going... Even though you get shy and your words prob get all mixed, you should talk to her in person. Get to know her, smile at her when you see her. Dont wait by her locker her or offer her rides home or anything at first but just gradually move in on her... Im a outgoing fun loving classy blonde with a good body "i know i sounded so concided,lol sorry" anyways the point im trying to get at is i love it when shy guys come and talk to me, i think its cute... You never know she might think the same way:) hope i helped!! Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): I don't add people on Facebook if I don't know them very well. Facebook is, for me, more personal than some other sites I know of. So if a random stranger adds me, I get a bit annoyed at that.
But if you did add her, I don't think it would be the end of the world. If she wasn't happy about it, she doesn't have to accept the request. And you do know this girl, even though you don't speak to her.
My suggestion would be to maybe send a message first, asking if she would be okay with you to add her. But if that feels too scary to do, then I don't see the harm in sending a friend request. You can add a message along with it, so you could say something like, "Just wondered if you would like to be friends on here? No problems if you don't though." That isn't pressuring her, and like I said before, if she isn't happy about it, she can refuse.
Good luck, I hope it works out well. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): doesnt she have to accept your friend request for you to be 'friends?' when you add her to your friend list i think fb will automatically send her a friend request. She will then approve or reject you. I dont think you can be a secret friend. At least my fb acct doesnt work that way. Hope this helps... :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): If your not a total, random stranger, just send her a friend request. It's not as creepy as someone adding you without permission and this gives her the option of accepting your request.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): Hi
You know, I have had a few guys call me out of the blue, like, they got my number from a friend and then called me up. I was slightly offended at not being asked first. You see, my email id, my cell number etc are the things that I consider private and if someone decides to just "help themselves" to it, well that is an invasion of my privacy.
Now, I understand that you are really shy, but, you are also a gentleman, right? You would never even think of invading a girls privacy, because you respect women and you are too classy to do that, right?
So, you guys must have had something going on for you to be absolutely sure that she likes you! Do you have her cell number or her email address? Or do you guys ever bump into each other at school or somewhere? Well, you could IM her or text her to ask if you could add her to your FB. Believe me, she will be very impressed with your chivalry. I think that gentlemen never go out of fashion and that being charming is the best way to get women to like you!
SO, muster up a little courage. But if you can't, then you can send her an email asking her to please be your friend.
That should solve your dilemma.
Best of Luck
Love :)
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reader, Good Girl +, writes (14 October 2009):
 If you send her a message right after friending her explaining why you friended her that may help. Also this may be a solution to being nervous about expressing your feelings face to face. If you are polite she should have no reason to be upset. Do try to dispel the nervousness as you get to know her though. From my own experience its not worth it to let nervousness win because it causes you to miss opportunities and can make the both of you awkward when around each other. Just be friendly and take your time and most importantly go for it! Hope this helps. Good luck!
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