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*olly_Poll
writes:HeyJust a quick question. My boyfriend is older than I am, and I know he isn't a virgin, whereas I am. I'm a 17 year old girl and we've been together for 8 months now, and we're ready to take the next step in our relationship and sleep together, i'm going to his tomorrow. But I'm scared it'll hurt, and that I won't be as good as his other girlfriends. He says he loves me so much, and it'll be amazing no matter what but I still worry. Is this normal? Thankyou :) Reply to this Question
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reader, Lolly_Poll +, writes (1 June 2011):
Lolly_Poll is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou. That helped a lot. He was very understanding and caring. Very gentle, and it didn't hurt too much. Thankyou for putting my mind at ease
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (31 May 2011):
 Of course it is normal, it is your first time so you are bound to be nervous about a lot of things!
But your boyfriend is right, if you both love each other then it will be amazing, nothing else will matter. And for your first time, he will hopefully he understanding so chances are he will do most of the work. As a girl, you dont need to do much, just lie back and enjoy it, as long as you dont lay there totally motionless like a dead fish then it will be good!
As you have sex more frequently, your confidence will build and you will be able to be more adventurous. But for your first time, he should be on top, make sure you have a good bit of foreplay so you are well lubricated (sometimes being nervous can stop you getting wet, so you need to do a bit of foreplay to get you relaxed as being wet will make it less painful). And just take it slow - dont rush, if it hurts then stop, and just enjoy it - your first time should be very special so try not to worry too much, if you both love each other then it will be great.
One final thing - make sure you use a condom and have got birth control sorted - you dont want to worry about getting pregnant or catching anything from him (he is not a virgin so you need to be careful, many STD's have no symptoms in men).
I hope this helps and good luck!
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