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writes:i am 14 year old boy. Sometimes i feel like i want to have sex even though i am 14 :/ is this just my hormones or something else. I don't feel comfortable talking about this to my mom or dad can anyone help ? Reply to this Question
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (11 January 2011):
 Good on you! That is the right attitude.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionas well if i had a girlfriend i wouldn't be having sex because i'm not stupid and i wouldn't want to be a young father
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (9 January 2011):
To the anonymous person, I think he's british not american, there's a british flag by his name :s.
To the OP, honestly, there is nothing wrong with you. Please don't think that there is. Your thoughts will create your reality, so believe that you are a perfectly normal 14 year old guy. You sound that way to me.
In life we get lots of rejections. We have to learn to cope with them and carry on trying to reach our dreams. It is often the case that guys get knocked back by girls lots of times as it is often the guy that asks out the girl. I know I've knocked back a few guys. Not that I wanted to reject them, just that they weren't the right guy for me or because I wasn't looking for a boyfriend or already had a crush on someone else or a boyfriend. So don't go thinking you are ugly or creepy or anything. It won't be because of that at all! You are still young so there is loads of time for you to have girlfriends.
Try to focus on doing things you enjoy. Do you have any hobbues you love? Can you join any clubs that will get you meeting and hanging out with cool, interesting people? I usually get guys interested in me when I am not looking, when I am just having fun in life and being myself, so if you do this you will probably have more luck. And you might meet a girlfriend if you socialise more, at a club, perhaps.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni've never had a girlfriend. I don't suppose there is anything wrong with me (i'm not creepy not particularly ugly) I've asked 3 girls out and they have all said no.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (9 January 2011):
 It's completely normal, and it is because of hormones. However, like someone else also said: it's normal to want it, but a bad idea to have it. Wait with sex until you are a bit older. In the meantime you can masturbate and explore your sexuality in terms of what turns you on etc.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (9 January 2011):
 It is absolutely normal to want to but it is a really really bad idea to actually have sex with someone for a few years yet. Ignore it when other boys your age tell you that they are having sex: most of them are lying because they feel insecure and the rest are fools.
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (9 January 2011):
 Normal.just learn to have full control on those feelings,otherwise they can land you in trouble,like being on the wrong side of the law as you are still illegal and being a very young father or a bearer of uncurable STIs.make your choice
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (9 January 2011):
Don't worry! It's completely normal. This is because your body is changing from a child's to a sexually mature adult. This means you will have the desire to try out your new abilities so to speak. If we were animals who didn't have a conscience, now would probably be the time you would start trying to mate.But, as we as a race have intelligence, we have laws and morals to protect young people like you. We know that at 14, most people are not emotionally mature enough yet to make the right decisions around sex. We know at your age you may be physically ready to have sex and therefore have a baby, but I'm sure you know, you would not be at the right place in your life to have a baby! SO for this reason we have the law in place to try to ensure people wait until they are 16.So, don't think for one minute there is anything wrong with you, but I wouldn't advise you act on these impulses yet. We all get them into adulthood. We just have to learn how to control and live with them. I would suggest masturbating for the time being. Then you will know what feels good to you for when the time comes.Good luck!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (9 January 2011):
It's perfectly normal. Those hormones will be all over the place for some time. All you need to remember is that it's illegal to have sex before your 16, and that if you do you'll wind up screwed by the law or wind up the father to a child a little early.
Relax, you're normal. Just don't act on it yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): Yeah man its normal. Remember however your body is ready physically before mentally when it comes to sex. So, Id suggest youd not listen to your hormones and start masturbating. Good luck pal.
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