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writes:I want your advice and insight. I'm straight, I have a boyfriend but I often have fantasies of having sex with girls and I really enjoy watching lesbian porn. It feels weird to say that, but I feel like it's true. Or...maybe it just really really turns me on. Sometimes I'm not sure what to think about this. Sometimes I feel like I really just want to meet a girl to have casual, fun sex with.I'm not sure what to do, or what to think of myself.I mean, is it normal to sometimes want to explore women but NOT interested in them? What I'm trying to say is, I'd never feel right being in a relationship with a girl. I do sometimes fantasize about having sex with one though.hmm...Help??
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to everyone who responded to this. I think it's becoming very clear to me that it's clearly just a fantasy. Honestly, if I were in the circumstance for the opportunity, I probably wouldn't do it. Haha.
Also, I really like this comment: "It's even more normal for women who aren't gay to be turned on by lesbian porn because heterosexual porn is mostly made by men for men." So true.
Thank you all!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2012): Our fantasies can lead us down some unexpected paths. Don't let it worry you - it is just a fantasy. The good thing is - so long as it stays in your head no-one gets hurt.
If "in real life" you find someone you are really attracted to there's no reason why you shouldn't experiment, but you must make sure that the other person knows your true motivation. Only fair they should know where they stand.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (30 March 2012):
 Sure it's totally normal. It's even more normal for women who aren't gay to be turned on by lesbian porn because heterosexual porn is mostly made by men for men.
But regardless, if you have a boyfriend cheating is cheating. You don't get a free pass just because she's not the same sex as he is.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (30 March 2012):
 Time for you to do some research on the spectrum of sexuality. Google "the Kinsey scale" (one result here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale ) which basically posits that human sexuality exists on a spectrum, there are people who are exclusively homo- or heterosexual, but most people are somewhere in between. Sounds like you are just discovering you aren't 100% heterosexual.
I would say that this revelation probably bears further exploration by you but that may be difficult in the context of a monogamous relationship with your boyfriend. Perhaps this is a signal from your subconscious that you aren't fully committed to him? Perhaps it's time to explore this side of yourself?
Whatever you do, don't cheat on him, that's not fair to him or ultimately to yourself. It's dishonest and totally preventable by telling the truth when needed. What has yet to be determined is when you tell him. It seems to me the time is coming soon.
Good luck as you learn more about yourself!
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reader, Beccccccy  +, writes (30 March 2012):
 There is nothing Weird about it at all ..Dont put yourself in a Box , enjoy watching what you like . Its not unusual for girls to enjoy each others bodies , even if you consider yourself " Staight " .. Well , I know I certainly admire " Sexy " womens bodies , and I consider myself straight .
Just enjoy watching your DVDs ..and see what happens in the future , If one time you find a beautiful womans body to Caress , just enjoy that also ..It doesn't mean you are Lesbian .
Good luck ..Enjoy .
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2012): I would say thats normal. I mean it sounds like a fantasy that you would want to play out once or twice. But its also quite different to actually do it too. Maybe you want to try it when you fantasize about it but as soon as you were going to try it it may be less appealing. It sounds like its just curiousity there is nothing wrong with indulging that fantasy occassionally if you want to as long as the other person knows where you stand and you arent stringing them along.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2012): There's nothing weird about being bicurious OP. The only advice I can give you is to try it out in real life see if you like it as much. Just make sure the girl you try it with knows the deal, don't use or mislead, just find a girl who's up for some discreet experimentation.
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