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writes:I've had a friend who I've known for a long time (10+ years) but recently I've started to feel sexually aroused whenever we talk. It could be about any mundane topic, but every time she speaks I just feel my heart beating a little faster.My mind gets taken over by thoughts of wanting to make love to her whenever she puts her arm around me. Is it normal to suddenly develop attraction to someone out of the blue like this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2021): It's a mixture of raging-hormones, opportunism, losing sight of platonic-boundaries; and the convenience of availability.
I implore you to get a grip! You're not a pubescent-tween overcome by growth-spurts and hormones; who can't control himself.
It's almost inevitable. Becoming attracted to "friends" is no new thing. This is often typical if you're lonely, recently separated from a failed-relationship, or a divorce; or you've had difficulty in finding reasonably-decent matches, conducive to maintaining durable romantic-relationships. You'll start to look at what's in close-proximity, and considering the "bird in the hand."
If the matter is strictly about sexual-arousal; you're just being a horny-dog, and you should practice some reasonable self-control. You'll fantasize all the possibilities and indulge your curiosity; but once the curiosity is satisfied, suddenly the intensity of interest is lost. That ruins friendships.
I'm a man. I see this from a guy's point of view. Females might misread this in a romantic-sense. It's mainly in the pants.
As I said, get a grip, dude!
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reader, kenny +, writes (22 June 2021):
 I think this has a lot to do with age and maturity, and how our thoughts and feelings change as we grow older.
When you first met her you would have been in the age bracket of 12-15. At this age you would not have been having these feelings for her like you are having now.
As she has matured and grown, as have you as well you see her in a different light, you are noticing the beautiful lady that she has grown into.
Is it normal to develop an attraction to someone out of the blue?. I would say there is nothing wrong with it, and its normal.
If she is single, and you are single, then keep hold of these feelings and see what transpires as time goes on.
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