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writes:Well nearly a year after the split I'm still angry and hurt that my friend went off with my ex behind my back.I have tried to do all the things I should do - like no contact and blocking off social media - but it still hurts and I still hate and think of the girl who did it to me!! Especially since they are still together!!Why can't I forget?!! I have tried to move on - I socialise with friends and do other things so it's not if I just sit alone, but I just can't get the hurt and betrayal out of my head. I never even had time to say my piece to them properly as they had both blocked me before I had time to get my thoughts together.How do I forget all this hurt and pain? I thought I would be better by now. Is it normal?
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (24 September 2015):
If you can get yourself to believe that its truly better the universe made it so these two people would be out of your lives. It sounds like they are not the most upstanding people - the way they handled this or the fact they could even do it in the first place. So sorry you're going through this.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (23 September 2015):
 I think you might need to assess how pervasive this hurt is in your life. If you wake up every morning angry and hurt and feeling the pain of the betrayal acutely after one year? Then I think it's time to talk to someone with clinical training in this.
I found a link that might provide some structure for you, http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-carmen-harra/14-steps-to-recover-from-_b_5660057.html
And here's a link with advice for when it's time to get pro help: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/08/11/8-signs-you-should-see-a_n_4718245.html
I think it's time to talk it over with your doctor, or with a close friend, someone who can point you to a caregiver with expertise in this.
Best wishes to you.
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reader, Queenie2015  +, writes (23 September 2015):
 Hello
You feel betrayed - that's not an easy feeling to shake. There's not really any sound advice to make you forget your hurt. The only thing I can suggest is to realise that not all friends will do this to you and do your best to move on. Try to forget - but remember that most friends would never do this.
I'm sorry there's not much more advice I can give you, I hope things start to look up for you and you are able to get over this feeling of betrayal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2015): yeah, it is normal, natural and obvious too... The betrayal is very hard thing to forget and forgive. But You have a right to stay in Peace. So try to forget it, not because they deserve it, but because you deserve to stay happy. Try some small but effective remedies like travelling, music, dancing, hanging out with friends etc.
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