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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Over the last few years, I've grown closer to one of my long distance guy friends. Our friendship started heading towards dating but at the end of last year, he expressed reluctance to upgrading this because he thought we were too different. I was upset about this, handled things poorly and we tried to cut back communication. A few months back we saw each other again in person and the decision was made to start (officially) dating. He's a good guy and I feel respected and valued with him. He doesn't pressure me into anything I feel uncomfortable about and there is much to respect about him. The thing is -- I'm now starting to second guess myself and the decision we made. I wonder if perhaps he was right with his initial hesitancies about whether we would 'work' as a couple. I don't have much experience with the dating world and take dating/courtship rather seriously (as does he). Is it normal to second guess oneself so early on or should I listen to this "gut feeling"?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 December 2018):
 Very late answer, and Im sure you made a decision already. But its quite possible to combine head and heart in this matter. Yes, differences will make things difficult, but only if they are core differences. Passion makes up for lots also. Usually, if you just let things play themselves out, the answer will present itself.
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