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writes:Alright, so, this might be a little long of a story, and I'm sorry for anyone who doesn't like to read. Okay, so, I met this guy about 7 months ago and we hit it off pretty nicely. We texted like almost everyday. About everything and anything. First time I met him, I just felt so comfortable with him and I still do. Well, we never really hung out much. Anytime I brought it up he would just kinda text back all unsure and indecisive. So, I just let it go. Well, I left town to go live with my brother in February. And at the time I left, we weren't talking cause he had a gf. About a few weeks into me being away, he added me on snapchat and we began talking again. And when we were texting he was so sweet and kind and caring. We talked a lot while I was away, and he really seemed like he liked me. I talked about running away with him, staying the night with him so I could sleep in his arms, hanging out with him, playing video games with him, going to the park with him and swinging(cause that's like my fav thing to do). And he was right on board with it all. He seemed to like the idea of it all just as much as I did. Wells, in May I got back into town. We hadn't been talking for a few days before I had gotten back. But I missed him so I texted him and we got into talking again. And just about a week ago, I went over to hang out with him. Well, he took my virginity that night(long story short). And since then we haven't talked. I tried, and he would text back a few times then just stop responding. So, I just gave up trying to talk to him. But I'm really, just, I don't know. Like, I'm denying that he used me, that he only wanted one thing and now that he got it, he's gone. I keep making up excuses for him. Keep telling myself that we've gone days without talking before, that's all this is. But, a part of me is so worried that's not what it is. And I definitely keep lying to everyone. They keep asking me how things are going with him and I keep telling them fine because, it would look entirely bad if we hung out and then he just stopped talking to me. I don't want anyone to think he's a bad guy. So, I'm pretty sure I'll keep lying to everyone until I find a good point to tell them I'm the one who stopped talking to him. Cause, sigh, I really just want people to see him as a good guy. Cause maybe I'm just overreacting and overthinking it all. I guess my whole point of this story, of telling you guys, is cause I don't know what to do. I really, really like him. Worst part is, is he knows how I feel about him. I've told him multiple times. Anyways, I'm just looking for answers. A reason to stay or leave. A reason to not feel like I'm the one who screwed something up. But most importantly, how do I get over him? Or even begin to try?And please, I ask you with sincerity to not call me a whore.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 June 2015):
 He is an asshat.
That simple.
You were chatting with a guy who HAD a GF. NO wonder he didn't want to met up. He didn't want to get caught.
Then you were FOOLISH enough (sorry) to have sex with him, even though you were NOT his GF, nor did you know if he HAD a GF already. My guess is you thought having SEX with him would MAKE him LOVE you back or would MAKE him want to date you, be with you - but it backfired. ALL he wanted was to take your virginity and then ignore you.
So...STOP making excuses for him. IT DOESN'T make him a better guy than he is. And he IS NOT a good guy.
Block him delete him.. move on.
We all make mistakes... HE was YOUR mistake.
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reader, eddie1958  +, writes (4 June 2015):
It sounds like you have been mostly comunicating in text. I have made a similar mistake. Texting has it`s place, but after meeting you need to start to talk in person on the phone or better still be in person together.
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