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30-35,
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writes:Please tell me if this is normal or not, but I hate it when I start to crush on a girl because I feel weak, mainly because I don`t have the confedence to tell her I like her or anything like that. When I crush on a girl, I just feel like a coward and a weakling because I know the girl won`t like me back. This all started in the 6th grade when I had my first major crush and began to compare me to my crush as in she's smart and I am not as smart, she`s pretty I`m ok looking, and a hole bunch of other stuff and I began to hide my emotions because I thought girls liked guys that didn`t show emotion.
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reader, cindy 15  +, writes (9 July 2010):
 i am the same age as you and YES its normal for a girl to hide there feelings your young and as a girl the reason y girls like guys that dont show emotion is cause it seems cool to the mysterious and hey every one there own personality ITS NORMAL!!
good luck buddy!!!
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reader, The old Man? +, writes (8 July 2010):
 You're normal!
What you are experiencing is something that will come and go as your confidence level changes.
Don't ever think yourself dumb. I'm sure you have something that you're good at, that maybe others your age aren't. You probably don't realize it yet, but maybe you do.
As for the girl, just try and relax, be yourself and talk to her. If she's interested, she just may tell you. Perhaps you could keep it low pressure and mention doing something together.
I think you're being too hard on yourself. On one hand, that's a good thing, but keep it real. Keep in mind, she's no better than you, nor is anyone else.
As for this uncertainty thing. Son, I'll be 50 in a few months. I've gone in and out of that phase all of my life. There have been times I was confident enough that I walked up to a complete stranger and introduced myself, and within no time, the date was arranged. Then,,, there were those times when I hesitated and waited, and thought do I or don't I, should I or shouldn't I? I've had girls say to me "Ya know, I was beginning to wonder if you were ever going to ask me out". A good save to that is to reply with a smile: "That's funny, I was thinking the same thing about you!"
They're women buddy, you'll never figure them out! Don't drive yourself crazy trying!
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