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writes: Recently my sex drive has been considerably higher than my bf's. We have sex quite often at least three week sometimes everyday but while my bf finds this plenty I still don't find it enough. He will often have sex more often than he would like to keep me happy but I feel like this is really unfair on him. I hate to stereotype but isn't it usually guys who have a high sex drive. Is it normal to have this high a sex drive or does it mean I'm a sex addict or a slut etc ?
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (23 May 2011):
 3 times a week isn't much at all.
In the first 6 month of my relationship we were doing it 4 times a day, so you are completely normal!
It is assumed that men have higher sex drives than women which is complete bollocks. Each person is different, you are a more sexual and "touchy" person than your boyfriend.
If this bothers you, do you think that you are well partnered with your boyfriend? What you don't want to happen is to resent him because he isn't pleasing you enough sexually.
Have a think about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2011): It is normal you are not a slut or a sex addict 3 to 5 times a week really isnt too much. I have a high sex drive as well but if i had it my way id have sex at least 3 times a day and we actually used to but with a newborn and a toddler its not really an option lol. But dont worry you are normal lol.
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reader, Maverickjuniper  +, writes (22 May 2011):
Your sex drive is not always a result of your gender (testosterone/estrogen)but rather it is often times a result of your lifestyle. That is, for instance, he may not have as much of a drive as you because he has a higher than usual level of stress in his life at the moment. Or in reverse, you may have a higher sex drive because you subconsciously realize that sex relieves the stress you have in your life. In relationships it also comes down to what we seek. For instance, he may be more of an intellectual lover while you may be more of a physical/touch type person. It could also be possible that he simply does not feel like sex that much. (period)Your stereotype about men wanting it more than woman is mostly true though haha so I envy this guy. Focus on your relationship and be sure that you guys are on the same level. Best wishes!
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave +, writes (22 May 2011):
It is absolutely normal to have a high sex drive and it can be male or female who has the higher drive.
My opinion on sex drives is they are based on how good the sex is you're getting - because you want it more.
So in that case, he's giving you good sex, but that is not to say you're not giving it good in return.
It could just be a case of he can't keep up with it.
Perhaps you should reduce the amount of sex with him to his level to prevent a risk of it becoming a chore for him to keep you happy.
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