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writes:I am in my fifties and had a boyfriend of 38 .he just dropped contact 3months ago. We saw each other occasionally.I loved him but he borriwed money and never gave it back. Is it biologically normal to have a relationship with a guy 22years younger than me??
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): Ah Im sorry things didnt work out for you. He was unkind to do that and its a huge possibility that he was the type that couldnt accept the age gap BUT as you have seen on here people are giving it a thumbs up. One sounds like she has a great thing going on.
I too believe age doesnt matter. The mindset of the person does. Many men love older women. Love is all that matters.
Dont beat yourself up, it happened to me 5 yrs ago, he was 25 me 37. We seemed great then he went, having had a few hundred. The I met one that thought I was the sun. Its the way it goes. Hugs to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): Don't loan money to people you don't know well. He was probably just using you for money. The age difference can be ok depending on your life situation and goals in life, but most likely too much of an age difference is just too much to have a long lasting and a happy relationship.I'm currently going out with someone 31 years older than me, however we are only platonic friends. The attraction is not there for me and it never will be and even if it were there are too many factors to have a good relationship such as difference in what we want in a relationship and his age being at the point where he is facing different life issues.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (1 February 2012):
 Yeah thats normal. Two mature adults can surely have a relationship, regardless of age difference.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (1 February 2012):
 It's normal if it's a loving relationship and you both respect eachother and care about eachother. Any age gap of both genders or same genders for that matter is normal but not all relationships are good or serious.
Im sorry you got used. Put it down to experience and move on. Next time don't give anyone any money and if they don't want to see you regularly and show some loving respect, move on quickly and don't allow yourself to get burned again. At any age, someone can fall foul of a player...learn and move on.
Hugs xx
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reader, Relationship.Chef  +, writes (1 February 2012):
 Why not?
Is there some physiological difference between when you were 22 years younger?
Why should be wrong to date someone much younger/older than you? Simply because society believes "date someone your age"?
Of course, borrowing money and making for the hills, well, that smells pretty fishy.....
#*Hope it helps, and, if so, please, rate my answer!*#
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 February 2012):
 Well if it's a REAL relationship I hope not I'm nearly 52 and my fiancé is 38 so our gap is only 13 years. HA... ONLY THIRTEEN YEARS... that sounds so weird.
HE borrowed money
you saw him occasionally
he borrowed money and never gave it back? HOW MUCH?
sounds to me like it was not a relationship that had a serious standing.
I'm sorry he misbehaved (seeing you occasionally and borrowing money he did not return screams to me that he played on your emotions and used you)
but biologically there is nothing wrong with dating adults younger than you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2012): It doesn't matter as long as the maturity to hold a mutual relationship is there. Some people make it, some don't. Depends on where you both are in life. Be sure you understand all the pros and cons. If you can work through things then fine. Otherwise you might rein in the age gap a little more. I was with a guy 13 years younger (35 to 22). Yeah. He was NOT ready for any real lasting committment. Be sure you're on the same page with this one. If so, go for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2012): Yes, it is OK to love someone 22 years younger than you. Some people mature quickly, or dont want what the opposite sex do that are their age.
Its the money thing that gets me, it sounds like you got used a little bit.
For a man of 38 he should be settled in his life and job, not bumming money off of any woman.
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