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writes:My Husband and I have been married for almost 7 years!We are both 31 years old. We have a pretty good relationship with an occasional argument here or there. However, he is and RN in a trauma hospital and he works with a TON of younger woman. Ranging in age from 22 to 28 I think mostly. He has never cheated on me, and his routine has not changed, but I am so worried about him being around these woman. He still comes home on time, he does not go out with people from work, but for some reason, it just has me bothered. Is this normal? To be so jealous and curious? Please let me know! Thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2010): I was with a girlfriend/partner for 10 years. She was several years older than me and that in itself wasn't a problem. However, she did have a problem that I have close female friends, including those who were around long before she came on the scene. I repeatedly told her she had nothing to worry about - if I wanted to be with them in that way I wouldn't be with her, they were just friends. And they were, every single one of them. Most of them weren't even single. But she didn't like it and four years ago she started making derogatory comments about some of them and inferring things were going on. They weren't. I saw my friends less to try and make her feel more comfortable but the comments still came. In the end, it got to the point where I had to hide the fact that I had spoken with them because it would lead to friction. It put more and more distance between us because it made me feel I wasn't trusted when I had done nothing whatsoever. I repeatedly told her this wasn't the case and while I had cut back on seeing them, I was not going to ditch friends who I have been very good to me and who mean a lot to me because of her insecurities. She never improved. She is now my ex-girlfriend/partner. I am now single. But much happier. Change your ways or he may do what I did and decide enough is enough.
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reader, cupidsarrow  +, writes (21 May 2010):
Men are very simple creatures. IF you know that your husband works with younger women, I would definitely reccommend working on changing your attitude about yourself before getting jealous and giving him the chance or opportunity to stray. If a man comes home to a beautiful wife he loves why would he go elsewhere. Maybe you just need to feel more confident about yourself and remind him from time to time that even after 7 years of marriage you are still sexier than those other women and after all you are the woman he chose to marry and fell in love with 7 years ago maybe he just needs a bit of reminding!!! Good luck :)
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (21 May 2010):
No...why would you be jealous and curious if he keeps the same routine? That sounds pretty predictable to me...
If you're so worried about these other women, lose a few pounds if it's needed and do your hair and wear makeup if you've been lacking in that department. I can only guess you're worried because you're not feeling that great about yourself.
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reader, Universe Man +, writes (21 May 2010):
Normal? Probably. Healthy? No. Groundless feelings of jealousy probably reflect a lack of self-esteem on your part, which is never attractive. Find out why you are jealous and let it go, or before long you probably will have reason to be jealous.
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reader, DeadEyeDick +, writes (21 May 2010):
 Just keep him sexually satisfied at home, and keep your lines of communication open and honest, and love him, and you should never have anything to worry about at all! especially if you guys have been happy, don't change now!!
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